Trouble With Sex

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Trouble With Sex
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 1:31pm
I was going to add this to the "I need sex lessons" discussion but my problem's a little different.

we've been married for 4 years. He's my first partner, but he's had others before me. I try my best to please him, but we end up getting really frustrated. I find being on top very awkward (not to mention uncomfortable) and he always slips out.I just don't know how to move -- one time he even called me "clumsy." Like THAT'S going to encourage me. Well, now we don't even bother with sex anymore. I think it's been a year since we tried. I feel really hurt, like it's my fault but I know it's BOTH our faults. I suppose we need counselling -- but since we never even discuss sex anymore it's difficult to bring up.

Has anyone else ever gone through something like this? I just want to know that I'm not alone!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 2:38pm

If he is not willing to let you know how to pleasure him, then it is his fault, not yours.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 11:35pm
You are in a sad, unenviable situation. Going one year without sex in the early years of marriage is a travesty. It seem that he is being very selfish and is punishing you for your lack of experience. Before things get any worse, you should suggest marriage counselling.