troubled sex life!

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Registered: 10-21-2004
troubled sex life!
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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 4:50pm
ive been with my bf a while now and we still havnt had sex. i dont know if its him or me. we've tried but he cant get it in. im a virgin so im not sure if im not wide enuf or if he isnt hard enuf, some1 help!!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 5:00pm

Does he give you enough foreplay before trying intercourse? You have to be relaxed, aroused and well lubricated before intercourse. If you don't lubricate enough naturally (if you are nervous, that will cut down on your lubrication), get some KY, Astroglide or one of the other lubes made for sex, but you also have to be relaxed. If you are tense, your vaginal muscles will tighten up making penetration difficult. Don't skip over or rush through foreplay, it's important to get enough foreplay for women. Here is a site you and your b/f should check out. www.the-clitoris.com

~Tish


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 9:53pm
Perhaps he is not hard enough. If he gets hard enough, the Astroglide or KY jelly will make the entrance much easier. Don't worry. When you get it right, you will laugh about this problem in the future. Good luck.