The Truth!

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The Truth!
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Fri, 04-14-2006 - 8:17pm

I'm personally curious what women REALLY think of men. This was a discussion on another message board, and I just had to get some insight from the interesting personalities we have on 'this' one. :)

Do you truly believe...that men can love women the physical part of the relationship? Do you really? REALLY???

For those of you who say yes, what do you believe that it could actually be based on? Whatever your answer is, how long could that possibly last, in your honest opinion? Would it last for less than a year? Does it simply mean that there is something else those men want? Are those men insecure and will latch on to any woman anyway?

Whats your actual true thoughts on that?

 

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In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 9:23pm

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Registered: 01-07-2005
In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 9:44pm

I find this answer very hard to answer, yet two epsiodes in my life sort of answer it:

Husband claimed he loved me everyday, though during the last five years of our marriage we had sex about 4 times. Does that count as <<>>?

Current man was a friend for 9 years before we became a couple. Even though he's never said "I love you" to my face, his exwife claims he loves me and says he always has. Listening to him now and looking back, I tend to agree with her and I know if our relationship ends we'll still remain friends. Does this count as <<>> even though he's never said I love you?

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Registered: 09-17-2005
In reply to: cl_para1995
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 6:17am

Love and relationships are too different things... you can love someone but that doesn't mean a relationship will last. Do I think a man can really love a woman without the physical part of the relationship? Absolutely. How long or whether or not the relationship can survive the lack of a physical connection is a matter of the circumstances and the people involved.

Can you be more specific? For example, are you talking about couples who wait till marriage to have sex? Or people who physically aren't capable of having sex? (IE, paralyzation, other health problems, etc). Or people who have taken a vow to never have sex? (IE, Nuns and Priests). Or situations where a man claims to be in love with a woman even though she doesn't love him back (and therefore assumedly hasn't/won't sleep with him)? Because I would answer each one of them differently.

Personally I think both men and women would have trouble being in a relationship that would never include a physical relationship (a delayed physical relationship is another story) but that doesn't stop either of them from sometimes falling in love with someone in these situations anyway.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: cl_para1995
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 10:48am
Yes I believe they can love with and without physical in a partnership-. Based on a friendship first. Which will hold the connection to gether. and communication healthy.
JS
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In reply to: cl_para1995
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:47pm
I agree. One of my best friends in the world was male and we had many many discussions about this very subject. We had deep affection and love for one another but there was no physical chemistry between us. I loved his BRAIN, not his body, and visa versa.