Is this a turn off?

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Registered: 03-28-2005
Is this a turn off?
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 9:40am

Hey,

Well i've been seeing my new guy for a while now and we've had sex a few times and its been really really great, however when we can't see each other, due to work etc, we get quite kinky over the phone, i really enjoy this, but heres the thing..i have a really high sex drive and get really kinky over the phone with him in messages, does it turn a guy off when a girl has a really high sex drive and gets kinky like that? I don't want to put him off as I really like him, he's said before that he doesn't mind me being kinky but if i mention a high sex drive would it scare him off?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:06am
If he's participating in the conversations, then he likes what's happening. It seems to me that he would already suspect you have a high sex drive and wouldn't be scared off by you mentioning it.


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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:08am

It'll scare him off if he thinks you're going to be all over him all the time, and he's not as interested as you are.

Why do you have to "tell" him anything? He's probably got the idea from your phone conversations....and he's not objecting, is he? Why are you worried about telling him something that he already knows?

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Registered: 03-28-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:16am
Dunno..just a bit insecure, i want him to like me. I don't want him thinkin badly of me because I'd like sex with him more often
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:11am
If he's with you, he likes you. If he participates in the phone sex, it's not making him NOT like you. I think you need to learn to like yourself more. If that's who you are, then that's what he gets. If he doesn't like it, then it's his loss. If you can't be who you are, then he's not the right person for you.
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 5:54am
If you look anything like the "photo" of cl-misty_mae I'm sure any language and advances will be welcome ; )
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 11:37am

I don't think you need to worry ... he's a guy lol! I know I have a really high sex drive (I was much worse when I was younger) and have been through a LOT of relationships and not one single guy minded the fact that ... as my ex-husband used to say 'hearing the faucet running even turns you on'. LOL ... well doh ... there's a reason behind that. Actually .. at tthat time in my life I was perputally horny so it didn't take anything to turn me. Thank goodness I mellowed a little!

So, let him know you can be just as kinky as HE wants you to be and he will love it. I can't remember a time though when I ever pushed a guy's kinky envelope and I am a bit kinky anyway !!