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| Sun, 02-05-2006 - 9:11pm |
My bf and i have been together almost two years. our sex life was great and i couldn't complain. over the last six months it's slowly declined. i have given oral sex no prob yet haven't recieved it in a while like months and it seems he gets off quicker and quicker it sucks i haven't had a really good orgasam in months. i want to bring it up but i dont want him to feel like crap about it. I do love him and want him to fill my needs with out making im feel like bad. help me!

I don't get it. It's ok for you to feel like crap, but you can't talk to him because you don't want HIM to feel like crap? A relationship includes two people. If one of them isn't happy, then it's not much of a relationship. If the one that's unhappy can't tell the other one about it, something is wrong. There are ways of discussing things without placing "blame". Why would YOU be bad if you asked for what you want?
It's called communication. You talk to him outside the bedroom and tell him you're feeling neglected, and you wonder why things have changed. Tell him the specifics....you're missing the foreplay, you feel like it's a race to the finish, and you're left hanging. Then ask him why this is happening, and what WE can do to change things.
If he can't deal with a discussion like that.....then there's more going on than just a change in the sex. If you don't initiate the conversation.....nothing is going to change.
Agreeing with Westie and Dakine.