Turn Off's in Bed

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Turn Off's in Bed
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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 11:37pm

OK, you've met a great guy/gal or just got into a relationship - you're in the process of making love or having sex for the very first time. He or she does or says something that turns you off completely .. what is it?

Share your stories!

PS

For me in the FAR past, baby talk - not in the middle of hot sex (not the time or place) that's a turn off. Or, he says "boy you're really getting into it" making me feel ashamed (that actually happened) like DUH that's what it's all about - apparently he had hang ups, ha! I can't think of anything else personally that's happened....I think they had a Sex and the City about this AKA turn offs in bed. Oh, I remember Miranda wasn't into the dirty talk - that I don't mind at all.

 
 

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 7:35am
My first sexual partner had a habit of toning down her physical expressions as she approached an orgasm. If she knew I was looking at her, she would suppress her facial expressions and body movements, as if embarrassed at so openly displaying her arousal. I never did understand why.
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Registered: 12-01-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:24am
My biggest turn off is when a man doesn't show any enjoyment of the sex ie. no sounds, no real zest in it at all. I guess I am one to put it all out there if you feel like screaming scream if you feel like spanking spank etc. During sex is not the time to be inhibited. I guess I feel like you should relax, have fun, enjoy it. The only other turn off I have is once I had a friend who I did see on a regular basis just you know a booty call and when we were having sex he wanted to chat and get caught up on what was going on with each other. I don't want to talk about how my family is doing while I am having sex.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:51am
...the only thing I can think of besides the obvious self-centered, selfishness is being too fastidious. Sex is messy, and I like it that way... ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:58am
Rushed foreplay.
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Registered: 11-28-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:04pm
baby talk! eewww! :))
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:17pm
it turns me off when the man is not willing to do any work and just lays there while i'm doing all the work on top of him... when he looks like that he's not really into it... i can get dry in a second no matter how horny i am.
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Registered: 02-26-2001
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:53pm
In other words, he's acting like every woman I've ever been with, LOL.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 2:16pm
Yes...either way, it's not good!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 2:28pm
I will second that opinion!
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 3:12pm
okay maybe I'm naive...but why would anyone "just lie there" I don't get it.

 

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