Turn Off's in Bed

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Turn Off's in Bed
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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 11:37pm

OK, you've met a great guy/gal or just got into a relationship - you're in the process of making love or having sex for the very first time. He or she does or says something that turns you off completely .. what is it?

Share your stories!

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For me in the FAR past, baby talk - not in the middle of hot sex (not the time or place) that's a turn off. Or, he says "boy you're really getting into it" making me feel ashamed (that actually happened) like DUH that's what it's all about - apparently he had hang ups, ha! I can't think of anything else personally that's happened....I think they had a Sex and the City about this AKA turn offs in bed. Oh, I remember Miranda wasn't into the dirty talk - that I don't mind at all.

 
 
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:09am

My DH calls having sex with an unresponsive partner, necrophilia.

And yes, farting is funny but NOT IN BED. Nothing turns me off more than foul odors....no matter where or who they're emanating from.

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 5:48am

Well, I am new to this board, and thought I'd add my turn offs (other than those previously mentioned - farting is definitely a no-no. Afterwards, fine, because I'm done by then :) ).

When a guy is so busy concentrating on what he is doing that he doesn't look like he's enjoying himself. Sex is supposed to be fun, not serious!

Guys that think every woman likes the same things, and just go straight to it without a second thought.

The feeling of fingernails digging into my vagina when I'm being fingered - ouch, especially later when his penis rubs against those spots!

When one minute they are performing foreplay and have an erection, and then the next minute they don't for no apparent reason. If there is an apparent reason I can understand that, but for god's sake don't think of things unrelated to sex that will turn you off. My ex was never able to hide the fact he was no horny, even with the lights off lol. I could just feel the sudden change of behaviour.

My 2c.

Janet

 


 


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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 8:45am
Ah, but isn't the chase half the fun? ;-)
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 9:41am
Welcome to the board Janet.

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 1:43pm
Oh, there's one thing that really grosses me out. I adore my current lover, but just this one thing. And this is a bit gross so don't read if you're squeamish. Very often during sex or foreplay, he will have to pee really badly. Even if he's gone recently; it's just some physical thing. That's fine, aside from the fact that I'm sitting there hot to trot and he's doing his thing. But what happens is, when he gets back, there's still a lot of urine in there sometimes. Last week we had just had sex and taken a quick nap and I was going down on him to get him hard for a second go-round, and he had to pee, so he went off and did so. When he got back, I was staring to stroke his penis with my hand and we were both watching and all this urine came out and got all over my hand. I was so yucked out although I tried to act like it was nothing. I think we were both slightly embarrassed but what are ya gonna do.
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:14pm

Yeah, the having to go pee right in the middle of everything is a bummer, but that's just the way nature is, when you gotta go, you gotta go. Still, I think the way the person who has to take the break handles it goes a long way toward how much of a turn-off it is. One Saturday morning, I had started to initiate sex, you know, kissing, caressing, nibbling, all that stuff, when, without a word, my wife got up and went to the bathroom. No "Hold that thought." or "Don't go away, I'll be right back.", not a word. Talk about a mood-killer. Needless to say, I was so put off that I got dressed and went into the kitchen and started fixing breakfast, and that was the end of that.

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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 3:55am

>>I was staring to stroke his penis with my hand and we were both watching and all this urine came out and got all over my hand. I was so yucked out although I tried to act like it was nothing. I think we were both slightly embarrassed but what are ya gonna do.<<

See a urologist! I'd be worried about prostate issues if it were my partner.

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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 1:52pm
?prostate issues? I think it's simply that somehow having sex touches his bladder or something. I mean it's not like he just goes in for a little piddle, which is what I think the prostate thing is. He goes for like ages, omg! No coffee, beer etc. before sex I think. lol
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 2:19pm

my biggest turn off would have to be dirty hands and long / sharp fingernails. People please take some time and cut those fingernails and make sure there isn't dirst underneath.

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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 2:25pm

No, sex doesn't "touch his bladder" directly, but the urethra, bladder AND prostate can be irritated during sex. And prostate problems or bladder irritation can result in being unable to completely empty the bladder.

IF he's already prone to those problems, which you may know nothing about, then it is very possibly prostate, etc. issues. Blood engorges the pelvis, not just the penis. And since this is a FWB arrangement, he may not feel it's necessary to disclose any medical problems he may have.




Edited 7/18/2005 2:56 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001