Turn ons and Fantasies
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Turn ons and Fantasies
| Tue, 05-25-2004 - 5:21pm |
My GF and I have a wonderful sex life. At times, it does get somewhat hard for me cause at times I feel she doesn't desire me as much as she use to or think about being intimate as much as before. Since, I'm in love with her (for four wonderful years), and I want to be a wonderful lover, I have talked to her many times about what turns her on, and what her fantasies are. The answer I get is she doesn't have any fantasies about us or about sex, and she doesn't know what turns her on. We are both in our late 20s and I find it somewhat unbelievable that she doesn't have fantasies and doesn't know what turns her on. At times, this bothers me because I feel I always have to initiate sex and ask her, in a polite manner, to do things. Also, I try and be creative and talk to her about scenarios we could try or games we might play, etc. Now, I'm not pushy or anything like that, and I don't treat her like an object, she has even told me that. But, in the beginning of our relationship she use to initiate sex all the time and was very open to what she likes. Now, since I don't want our sex life to be routine, I have asked her about things she likes that turn her on, or if she fantasizes about sex. Has anyone ever heard anything like this before and how can we solve this? Sometimes I think that she needs to get in touch with her sexual side because we are all sexual beings. Right?
-Utah
-Utah

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Sharon
A friend is the person who kn
Also, for me sex isn't just an act or a game. For me it comes from my heart and soul. I listen to things that I think turn her on and give her as much satisfaction as she does to me. I'm not blind to the things that do seem to work from what I pick up on. I didn't think it would hurt to ask.
I'm sure this will bring up some really good discussion?
-Utah
Utah,
>>>I am somewhat new to this whole posting thing, but have read many posts pertaining to sex and relationships. Alot of the posts I have read on this board and other message boards are from women who ask for advice on what they can do to turn their man in their life on.
OK, fair question. first of all you have to consider the source(s), and also beable to read between the lines, i.e. sort out the BS from the real sincere stuff. They ARE message boards where ANYONE can post, and not all questions are sincere and not all answers qualify as coming from someone with a degree in women's psychology and sexuality.
There are good questions and there are off the wall questions. There are good answers and there are off the wall answers, and until you can pick up some "buzz" words you need to evaluate carefully. i.e. "women wantint advice on what they can do to turn their man on"
Sharon
A friend is the person who kn
That's why I suggested reading erotica to one another because it will bring up scenarios and situations without making the subject so personal. You can "bat around ideas" and agree to try some things without the whole question and answer formality of it all.
My DH is very much like your GF, and I am very inquisitive and interested in sex so I know what you're going through. You have to work with what you have though and be willing to become more creative in your approach. There's more than one way to skin a cat.
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