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unable to orgasm
| Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:06pm |
help, i have been having a hard time orgasming, i use to have orgasm after orgasm once my guy counted 7 orgasms in a 2 hr time frame & now i'm lucky to have one at all (he doesn't know this at all since i am always really wet down there).

Welcome to the board, luvpalms.
No wonder you're not having orgasms ... both of you are thinking about it entirely too much! First off, your orgasm is YOURS, it belongs to you. If you're worried about what he will think or that you have to have an O to please him, then you're working against yourself.
If your relationship is really about trust and honesty, then I would tell him what's been going on. Faking it isn't going to do anything good for either of you, ever.
Here's a website you can visit, www.the-clitoris.com. You might want him to visit it too. It has a lot of wonderful information about the female anatomy and how it responds to sexual stimulation.
Before you can get back on track, I think the first thing you need to do is take the pressure off. Your orgasm isn't a reflection on him, and he needs to realize that. If you were having orgasms before, with him, then it's likely that he realizes that you're faking it now. Being wet and having an orgasm are two entirely different events. Your body goes through other changes when you have an orgasm, surely he must realize that's not happening if it's something that he experienced before.
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