uncircumsized bf

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uncircumsized bf
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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 11:21am

i have a boyfriend who is not circumsized and has

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: lann33
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 3:18pm

1) He is the only one that really knows why. However it is not uncommon for a man to not orgasm during sex. Common reasons include nervousness, not being relaxed enough, and the stimulation may be different from the very specific and intense stimulation he gets from masturbating. Since you and him are new partners I would guess that he is still a little tense and just a little nervous as the two of you learn what each other likes and dislikes. At this point I would say that there is nothing to be worried about especially since he seems unconcerned.

2) Probably. Most men are sensitive in that area but it's commonly believed that uncircumsized men are more sensitive all over.

3) I believe that it is essential to use your hands during good oral sex. Most of the sensitivity is in the first couple of inches so it doesn't really matter that you can't get more of him into your mouth. You could try rubbing your lips up and down the shaft and licking and kissing it too. What ever you are doing will feel great. Even if he is not orgasming it will feel wonderful.

4)Again, most men are very used to their own masturbation technique and they vary the intensity and rhythm depending upon the sensations they are getting. You are not a mindreader so you cannot know exactly what he wants and when he wants it and it's no surprise that he may not orgasm during oral sex. Over time he will get used to the stimulation you provide and you will learn what he likes and eventually he'll probably learn to orgasm during oral. It would help if you could talk to him at the same time and ask him for pointers and tips on how to touch him or whether or not you are doing it right. Some men get very concerned about what to do when they DO orgasm. Many women do not like a man cumming in their mouth so if you haven't indicated where he can cum he may be holding back a little because he's unsure of what you want and prefer.

If he seems happy, I wouldn't worry so much. You could always ask him whehter or not he's satisified and suggest that next time he guide you and perhaps hold your hands and show you what he likes best.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: lann33
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 3:29pm

1) Circumcised, or uncircumcised, large or small has nothing to do with a man's climax and ejaculation, or the lack of them.

If a man can't finish no matter what you do....then he has a problem. If he can masturbate himself to completion, then he doesn't have a physical problem....he is either just too used to doing it himself, or he's got some kind of emotional hangups about doing it with a woman! How new is the relationship? Maybe he's just not relaxed and comfortable with you yet.

2) Most uncircumcised men have a more sensitive head because when they're flaccid, the head is covered with skin. Circumcised men have had a lifetime of an uncovered head, rubbing on their clothing, etc. So yes, he may be more sensitive because of that. Also, there is a "cord" that attaches the foreskin to the head along one side, and that can be VERY sensitive, if you pull it down too hard. It's called the frenulum, and you do need to be careful of that.

3) The shaft of the penis doesn't have a lot of feeling (except for "pressure") and the head is the sensitive part. As long as you have the head in your mouth, that's giving him all the sensations he can want.....and you use your hand to provide the pressure on the shaft. A the head of a man's penis is equivalent to a woman's clitoris...THAT is where the nerve endings are....although the woman has about 10X more nerve endings! The shaft is similar to the vagina.....not much feeling.

4) Refer to #1

You're right, he keeps coming back for more, so he's enjoying it. And yes, you DO have to ask him what he specifically likes to have done to him. You have to ask every new partner, because every man likes different things. Some like you to go fast, some slow, some like to be gripped tightly, some like things more gentle. People always say whatever you do, be careful with your teeth during oral. I dated a guy who LIKED to feel teeth! I'm sure he will be very happy to tell you what he likes! After all, he's the one who will benefit from it.

In general, there's not much difference between a circumcised man, and one who isn't....except there's more loose skin when they're erect. Size has no bearing on anything.....except possibly your pleasure or your pain.....and neither can or will cause lack of climax or ejaculation.