Uncomfortable

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Registered: 04-25-2005
Uncomfortable
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 7:57pm
me and my boyfriend have been going out since august and we get along great and have a good sex life. we are young and like to experience new things but lately hes been bringing up anal sex. he asks me repeatly everyday when my answer will be "yes" to his question " can i do it in the butt ". i think it sounds gross and uncomfortable and i feel if i do do it ill be embarrassed after. his friends are trying to encourage me to try it because "everyone should try it once" but i dont know what to do. should i just do it to shut him up ?? am i gona get pleasure out of it ?? if your a female and you have tried it .. whats it like ? pleeeease reply .. my bf is still waiting for an answer from me!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: sexynympho
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 8:24pm

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Registered: 01-27-2005
In reply to: sexynympho
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 8:27pm
Do NOT let anyone or anybody force you into doing something you DO NOT want to do. It is obvious that you are not ready for this act..tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel. If he truly cares for you, he should accept this and not discuss it again. And the act of having his friends coerce you, makes me wounder if He or they are worth calling "your" friends or not...
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: sexynympho
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 9:10pm

Well, Yes, it can be pleasurable for the woman - but only if it's done carefully and with patience and good communication between partners. Some people really enjoy it. But I'm not sure that it'd go that well for you. It doesn't sound like your guy has the patience to take it slowly and carefully. And it sounds like he'd run out afterwards and tell all his friends.

For starters, he's going about asking you to try it in completely the wrong way. He's using words that you have told him are offensive and make it seem digusting to you. Then he keeps nagging. And he's got his friends telling you what to do. What on earth is he thinking getting his friends involved in your sex life?!

After reading your other post about the threesome request, I really think that this guy either doesn't care much for you, or is really very immature. Are you sure that this is the guy for you? I think that you could be doing much better.

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Registered: 04-25-2005
In reply to: sexynympho
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 9:42pm
FYI .. i am 18 .. so is my bf so i can understand why he wants to do both with me. i do aree on the fact that he needs to respect MY feelings and not just want he thinks about the situation. i know he cares about me and honestly i think i need to talk with he and say im not doing any of it until im ready ( anal sex ) on the otherhand with the threesome .. no way in hell am i. ill hook up with a girl and give him a show but he aint getting jack from her .. visversa. and about his friends getting involved .. they are my friends to but mostly his. they arent trying to get me to do it but they are saying i should try .. and yes they should mind their own business and stay out of my sex life but yes they are still teens and you know how they act. i highly doubt our relationship will be broken up by a stupid situation like this. i mean at the end of the summer we are moving across the country to seattle together. and right now we are exploring our sexuality and i can understand why he wants to. he wont make me do it .. and when the time come ill let his do "a.s." when im comfortable with the situation. thanks for your comments so far. ive fell inlove with this site.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: sexynympho
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:23am

Frankly I think that you should NOT put on a show with another girl for him. I can just see it if you suggest that you'll do that for him. He'll go "Yes, yes! I agree. A show only. I don't get to touch her". All the time that he is saying that he's thinking "Ah ha! I'll just wait until the two girls are naked in front of me and I'll join in!".

And don't forget that he could turn around and say "Well, it was OK for _you_ to fool around with another girl, so it's only fair that _I_ get to fool around with another girl too!". And then what do you do? After-all, he would be right.

The best thing to do if you don't want a threesome is to not have a threesome at all in any way, shape or form. You try putting on a show for him and I guarantee that it will cause more and bigger problems than you were hoping that it would solve.

Explore your sexuality by all means. Just make sure that you stay inside the boundaries that you choose and that you don't make any stupid spur of the moment choices.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sexynympho
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:51am

His friends are encouraging you to try it? He's gotten his FRIENDS involved to pressure you????? Whatever happened to privacy and personal boundaries?

Geeze, GF, you need to tell him no and then dump this loser right away!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: sexynympho
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 7:45am

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