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| Wed, 12-22-2004 - 10:19pm |
Ok, to start off, here in Ohio, we've gotten like 8 inches of snow. So the roads are pretty bad. My boyfriend works about 40 minutes away, and he would leave work at 10 tonight and go back up tomorrow at 9. His mom felt worried, and offered to pay for a hotel, but there were some problems, and she couldn't hook it up. So a girl our age at his work offers for him to stay the night at her and her parents place. When he told me this, I said I felt uncomfortable, because I don't know this girl at all, and asked him if he could just charge the room to his credit card, and have his mom pay him back. He said it was ridiculous to spend 40 bucks on a hotel when he can get room for free at this girls house. Then he proceeded to treat me like the most horrible person in the world for telling him I felt uncomfortable.
So now I'm so frustrated I'm in tears, not because he's actually staying the night there, but because of how he didn't understand at all where I was coming from. He treated me like I was a horrible, jealous, bitch of a girlfriend for feeling a bit uncomfortable. He said if the situation were reversed, he'd be fine with it and never think twice.
Was I wrong for feeling a little uncomfortable about this?

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Oh -come- on, have a sense of humor. If the guy puts on Coke-bottle glasses and looks at you cross-eyed and says, "I could shcrew any woman I want, from Jenna Jameson to Christy Turlington," just try to crack a smile, yannow? How boring the world would be if nobody could ever tease or be sarcastic.
Heck, that's why Reagan beat Carter -- earnestness gets really boring; jaunty elbowing of the overly sincere ("... there you GO again ...") can be sooooooooooo refreshing.
Sounds like he's a patient man ...
How do you know he's doing it in that manner?
I also think the analogy of your ex trying to break into your email is off. The OP wasn't prying into anything.
Seriously, you've never met or heard of someone who thinks they are God's gift to men/women? Who thinks that anyone would be lucky to have them and be forever grateful for the crumbs of their attention? You've never known anyone who passively-aggressively puts their partner down? I have - and it's every bit as painful to watch as physical abuse.
Well, that's fair enough Tally ... I just assumed that could hardly be the case as they're bf/gf ... why wouldja be in a relationship with someone like that to begin with? Look, if he's not saying "I ham the UltraStud and all zese fabulous vomen vant me" with a _healthy_ dose of irony, she should run ... but that has nothin' to do with the guy staying at the co-worker's parents' place she should get directly outta there. But this "need to talk" about something which in and of itself seems quite innocent dudn't strike me as right either.
Basically, some sort of fun or good humor seems lacking on both sides here. I guess we need to arrange a conference call to get to the right answer ;-)
Update for everyone .. we talked things out, and I feel much better.
To David NJ .. if only what you said was relevant. If he did what you described, I would laugh, but that's not what he does. How 'bout you actually listen to what I'm saying instead of finding some way to take a shot at me?
Folks, we can go on to other discussions now. I don't need advice on this anymore. We talked and met half-way, I understood the innocence of what happened, and he understood my reasoning for doubting his good intentions. We both agreed to work on our "issues", him putting me down, and me being jealous. I guess we won't know if we'll be successful until another situation comes up.
Thanks for all the help, especially to Tish .. you made me think! =)
Edited 12/25/2004 1:53 am ET ET by x1moreaddiction
I think she is doing an awesome job of taking care of this situation by deciding to talk to him about it some more the next day... Maybe see if he can understand her point of view/her feelings.
If my guy pulled a stunt like that, I would dump him.
Hey, you asked.
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