Uncomfortable Question................
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Uncomfortable Question................
| Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:09pm |
I am putting this question here also, I really need opinions/advice. PLEASE.....
This is an uncomfortable question but I have to ask.
After having a baby a woman's body isn't quite the same. I am talking about how tight/loose she feels. I am concerned about this. I am not married so I didn't feel like asking the guy I was with. (I have only been with one guy 2x since having my baby and I won't be seeing him again we just weren't compatible.) I am wondering if this was part of the reason, maybe I have become too loose?
I don't really know how to judge this. Have you ever been with someone that was so loose that it just wasn't fun? Is that possible? Wouldn't there be some feeling even if not as tight?

Being in a strong committed relationship allows you to ask such questions. After having 2 babies I was concerned about the same. I asked my husband to be perfectly honest with me about it, and he said, that there is a slight difference in tightness, for some time after the babies, but within a few months the tightness returns almost to the way it was. I say almost, because nothing is the same as pre-baby, but he said that it in no way lessen the pleasure of being in side of me.
Personally I never really noticed a difference. My husband has a thick penis, that has always hit the right spot for me, so I never felt like there was difference, except of course, in the first few months after the baby, when naturally everything is a little stretched.
One thing that can help are kegels. I do them regularly before and during sex to tighten up as much as possible. Otherwise I wouldn't be too concerned about it.
I can answer this from a guy's POV; I just ended a long relationship with a girl in her mid 20s, no kids, and am now seeing a mother of three in her mid 40s. The new woman is about as attractive as you could possibly be at that point in life; she's dead fit and her tiny figure puts most schoolgirls to shame. But it's a very different feeling. Being as specific as I can, the younger girl's was very tight and felt very muscular and smooth, and it felt like at the very end there was another chamber or whatever that the head of my penis would kind of pop into at absolutely full penetration. Mine is fairly large, i dunno if that matters. Anyhow I often had the sensation, this sounds wierd, of being "milked" as I would cum, it just seemed to pull on it.
The new woman's is totally different, it's not nearly as tight and while it seems to hold me equally tightly right at the opening, after having sex for a few minutes she becomes really large inside. It's like a thumb and forefinger clasped around the base, rather than a whole hand holding my penis tightly. It feels less defined in there. However i have to be a bit careful as something apparently really hurts when it goes in deep. Many times, after being used to the other woman for a couple of years, I just pull out and finish myself off, it's not a bad thing but for the resulting really messy linens; it's not as though i'm at all worried about it, hers isn't really tight enough to get me off unless i'm unusually horny. The only thing I don't much care for, the new one often cuifs quite loudly after vigorous thrusting, I realize that's not intentional, we must be getting a lot of air in there or something!