unhappy and sad

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unhappy and sad
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 7:45am

Not a good night last night..DW wanted to cam while we made love while a friend watched online...all well and good and i was primed to go, but then we got to arguing and lets just say that i deflated very fast and then wasnt able to get it re-inflated....wife got pissed because this is something not only she but i wanted to do and well, i screwed it up...

I need some ideas on how to make it up to her....

Any thoughts????

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:17am

Doesn't sound like you were too "primed" if you two managed to turn the situation into a fight. You're not a machine either.

Perhaps, you aren't as ready for "prime time" as you think you are. Not sure if you've done this before but this could have been a subconscious reaction to the choice to share your lovemaking this way.

And if she's your wife, and she loves you, she'll get over it. Why should you need to make up for it? Men lose erections all the time.

Was she more concerned about disappointing this friend than comforting you?




Edited 3/28/2006 11:18 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:55am

I agree with Kat.


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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:23pm

I think that is some of it..it was for all three of us...she stayed up late to do this and then it didnt happen....and it upset her...and me also...heck i broke down over it....

I have been joking with her about doing this for a month or so and then when the chance happens, nothing...

still trying to figure out how to make it up to her...

All i want is for her to be satisfied and happy




Edited 3/28/2006 2:02 pm ET by bayouguywm
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:46pm
Try again?
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:33pm

Yes, but as far as I know, there is no "money back guarentee" on erections! You aren't a machine OR a porn star, so why expect things to go perfectly in an unusual situation like that?

The best way to "make it up to her" is to continue being a good husband. I hardly think it warranted breaking down over though.

As I mentioned before, maybe this idea sounds good to you in THEORY, but the reality may prove a bit daunting.




Edited 3/28/2006 4:39 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:06pm

Well, she can hardly expect you to be interested in having sex under normal circumstances if you are having an argument. I hardly think that expecting you to perform in front of a camera after a fight is reasonable. In fact, why were you fighting at all? And what exactly did the other person watching think of this fight? Her reaction all seems a bit weird to me. Mind you, your reaction seems a bit weird to me too - you "broke down" over this??????!!!

I don't know what the fight was about, but I don't think that you have to "make it up to her" at all unless the fight was started by you and it was about something petty and unreasonable. I don't really think that it is something to break down about either. This is sex on a webcam on the internet. This isn't real life and it is entertainment - something that you shouldn't be taking too seriously.