unrequited love but hot sex
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unrequited love but hot sex
| Thu, 06-30-2005 - 9:35pm |
I have been having a sexual relationship with a guy who lives in another city thousands of miles away. We met in March when I was on spring break and I went to my hometown. He was working as a bartender, and I noticed he liked me when he gave my sister and I free drinks. He ended up writing his number down for me and I couldn't say no. When I visited again in April we messed around but did not have sex, just making out and touching. He did not keep in contact with me during the intervening time. So again I visited my hometown in May for a weekend, I called him up and this time I had the most amazing sex ever. Just thinking about him I get goosebumps. And finally I was there in June for 3 weeks. We met up again, and this time we actually got to know each other more. We would go for drives at 3 AM and just talk for hours, and of course end up having awesome sex. It was nothing besides that. There was one night when he ignored my calls and I got kind of upset. So I thought that was the end. We didn't speak for about 5 days. I went to the bar where he worked one night and I ignored him. I was having a great time, talking to other guys, and he ended up calling me that night. I tried playing hard to get and told him that I didn't want to see him because it was too late. When he hung up I didn't think he'd call again. He called the next night and we saw each other. We would only see each other at night because he's a bartender. So in those three weeks, I think I started to develop feelings for him. I told him so and he said he didn't have time for a girlfriend because of his schedule and the fact that I was not living in the same city. But we still were having sex. After I told him that, I was sure he'd stop calling. But he kept calling. For the entire last week I was there, he called me every night, wanting to come visit me. Of course there were nights when he would call really late and I was not going to just be a booty call...other nights he would come over and I would not have sex with him. He seemed to be fine with that but the times we did it was great. the last night I was there, I thought it was so sweet and romantic because we went swimming at 4 AM, and had what I describe as 'gentle, loving sex' because he kept asking me if I was ok and kissing me, blah blah blah. And now I miss him soooooo much. I am trying hard not to call him and be emotional because I know he doesn't feel the same way about me!!! I really think I have fallen in love with him. I have known him for 3 months. I was so excited one night when he text messaged me at 5 AM because he couldn't sleep. he's all I think about!!!
How do I get over him????? I am not going to be able to visit my hometown for a couple of months and I don't want him to forget me because even if we don't have a relationship I still love the sex!!!!!
What should I do to keep in touch but not seem like I'm obsessed with him?? Message him every two weeks? Never call him again? What if he changes his number and I never see him again?? I would love to see him again, but I'm afraid by that time he will not be interested anymore.
How do I get over him????? I am not going to be able to visit my hometown for a couple of months and I don't want him to forget me because even if we don't have a relationship I still love the sex!!!!!
What should I do to keep in touch but not seem like I'm obsessed with him?? Message him every two weeks? Never call him again? What if he changes his number and I never see him again?? I would love to see him again, but I'm afraid by that time he will not be interested anymore.

"Of course there were nights when he would call really late and I was not going to just be a booty call..." Where did you get the idea that "booty calls" are only late at nite?
They can be any time of the day or night.....if the only time you hear from him is when he's horny!
"I was so excited one night when he text messaged me at 5 AM because he couldn't sleep." What exactly do you think THAT was?
You ARE a booty call......and if you're willing to settle for that, then call him, message him or do anything you want to make sure he knows you're still available.
He isn't going to fall in love with you just because you're willing to have sex with him at the drop of a hat. What do you think he's doing on the nights he's not with you? He's with someone else. He TOLD you he doesn't have time for a relationship so why are you wasting your time?
Find yourself someone who respects you for yourself, not for your services.