Update on (drunk) BF-we talked!

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Update on (drunk) BF-we talked!
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Fri, 01-07-2005 - 8:32am

Thanks for your posts. BF and I talked last night, and I feel so much better! I told him the drinking was bothering me and that I didn't want us going out all the time. Besides getting expensive, it's hard to grow a r'ship when you're either loaded or hungover. BF didn't realize it was bothering me so much, but he totally agreed, so we decided no more drinking at all during the week, and we're only going to go out one night during the weekend. We're also having a date night each week, because I said that we really haven't gone on a lot of dates (we're always with his friends) and he felt bad about that too. And then I asked about the sex part....

His response was that the first few times he was very nervous, so of course alcohol helps that. As far as the frequency of sex, he said that he cares so much for me, he didn't want me to feel like our r'ship was soley based on sex. He also said that he takes intimacy very seriously, and doesn't just have sex to have sex.

So, we both felt so much better after talking. And of course, then we had to have some amazing (sober) sex!!

:)

Katie

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 12:28pm
I'm glad to hear the two of you talked it out , got your feelings out and came to an understanding where both of you can be happy.

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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 3:05pm
That's good to hear!