Update to Screwed up.....

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Update to Screwed up.....
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 1:22pm

I stopped by my friend's b-day party last night and Dan and his gf were there. They asked if I had talked to John. I said "No, he hasn't called me, is that a bad sign?" And they said no, because he doesn't have my number. They said they hadn't talked to him this week but said he had a great time with me, thought I was great, etc. I told them that I really liked him and that I wanted to see him again. Then Dan kept saying that I should give John a call sometime so he gave me his number.

But after a lot of thinking, do I really want to call him? Shouldn't he be getting my number and calling me if he's interested? If he talks to Dan, he'll find out how I feel so then he can decide if he wants to call me. I just don't want to chance any akwardness if he's not interestd. So if I don't hear from him this weekend, I'll let it go. Do you agree?

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Registered: 12-18-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 1:40pm
partly. this is 2005 and men don't always make the first moves any more. I don't think there would be anything wrong with your calling and feeling the situation out. You don't have to proclaim love for him. If you really like him, it's ok to make the first move. If he isn't interested you will know. Just guard your feelings and remember if he doesn't return the feelings there is someone out there who will.
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 2:20pm

Will you shut up and call the man!?! *LOL* You obviously like him..He MIGHT be too shy to call you. I know my DH was too shy to call me..It took him TWO WEEKS to call me. Call the man. I know you can do it. Pick up the phone...If you do, I'll give you a cookie..Now, dial his number..Ok, now don't hang up..Tell him "Hi, this is....." and then say, "I was just wondering if you wanted to get together some time and hang out?" And he'll say yes..Good girl!

CALL HIM! *LOL*

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 2:25pm

OK FINE!!! But it better be a damn good cookie! LOL!

I don't know why I'm obsessing, too scared of rejection I guess. I think I'd rather not know than chance being blown off by him.

hugs,
Morgan

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 3:26pm
Oh, please. I doubt you'll have rejection. And if you do, I'll give you TWO cookies. *LOL* Let us know how it goes! *crossing fingers* NO SEX ON THE FIRST DATE!
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 3:57pm

I actually wonder how shy the two of you would be at this sensitive point had you two NOT slept together the sudden way you did. LOL!

Here's something else to keep in mind. You were told by his friend that it would be a good idea to give him a call and he even gave you his number, something to that effect. I think thats a positive sign, whether John shares the same level of feeling on this as you do or not. Best of luck to you!

 

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 1:28am
There are no rules about who should call who. If it was me, I'd wait for him to call me. If he told your friends that he had a great time, and thought you were great, then why didn't he ask them for your phone number? It seems to me that would have been the logical thing to do, but he didn't. If he's not interested enough to ask for your number......then he's not that interested.
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Registered: 12-28-2004
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 2:30am

TOUCHE GTB !

Trust your insticts. If he is not shy to have sex with you, if he is not shy to brag about you to Dan, he should not be shy to call you.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 9:32am
Yeah, but some guys are totally shy about asking for a number. I know that my DH actually lost my phone number and was too shy to come back and ask for it. Some guys are like that. Maybe he wasn't that sure if she was interested in him and by having her call first, it would prove to him that she is?! Who knows..But, I wouldn't go as far to say he isn't interested in her.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:05am

On a side note, so he's only been broken up with his ex for a couple months. I guess they dated for a few years. And she called him that morning when I was with him. He played her message on speakerphone and she just said she wanted to talk to him. So I think there could be some unresolved issues there.

Anyway, I'm just hoping to see him this out this weekend. But I'm not going to call him. He can get my number and he does know where I live.

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 3:13pm
And you wonder why some women sit at home by themselves. I'm pretty shy and it took me 3 weeks to get up the nerve to call my future wife. And then it took another 3-4 weeks for the first kiss and she had to end up kissing me. Pick up the phone call him! Why does he have to be the one to call you. Your last statement "But I'm not going to call him. He can get my number and he does know where I live" what if he's sitting at home saying the same thing? The two of you will never get togther. CALL HIM!