Vagina Tightness...

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Vagina Tightness...
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:11am
My man & I haven't had sex for a whole week, so we did tonight. After we had finished (he didn't even last 5 minutes, but that's beside the point), he said, "I thought you'd pu**y be tighter." (since it'd been a week) I asked him, "What? It was tighter last time?" He responded, "Yeah." I was hurt by this. "Well, maybe I should have it stitched up." I said. I was hurt by this, but atleast I appreciate him being honest with me. What should I do to strengthen my PC muscles? Kegel exercises? Does it actually work? Does it make your pu**y tighter? I heard it does. My man says that I satisfy him, but when he makes a comment like that, it makes me wonder... Please help!!! (I haven't had any kids or anything-- my vagina's too big, that's all!)
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Registered: 07-06-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 3:24am
> Kegel's can tighten the opening, not the inside of the vagina

I haven't heard anything from anybody. I've heard kegel's are good for everyone.

I do my male kegel's after the morning shower by supporting my towel and "exercising" with it on my male towel rack. It's really increased the power and intensity of my ejaculations.

But, what do kegel's do for women? Is Greenteabag correct that it only tightens the vaginal opening? With proper kegel's can a woman tighten so much she can keep a man from penetrating her?

Do kegel's tighten any internal vaginal muscles that would either help her or him?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 6:56am
sumguy,

See my reply #9. I don't know about Kegels enabling a women to prevent a man from entering, but I do know that DW's very strong contractions during orgasm frequently push me out.

taoist
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Registered: 07-06-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 9:40am
Hi Tao,

I know that when my SO has strong contractions, especially just before she ejaculates, the rippling contractions push me out. Women sure can have strong muscles. I have to struggle and push to stay inside. I wonder what the evolutionary purpose of that is?

I have known a couple women that could tighten their opening to prevent re-entry, even in the middle of an intercourse session. I always found that an erotic challenge to my manhood. While inside they also could provide an incredible massage.

I think the referenced post was about kegel's? I do mine many times a day. I'll show my complete ignorance of tao. Is that where a guy can ejaculate back into himself? I do my kegel's to enhance my contractions as I love to expel out of me and into another, and to repeat asap.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:11am
Nothing is wrong with once a week IF it's a mutual decision and you're both satisfied with that. But if he's making that decision alone, then it's wrong.

You're supposed to be partners and attempt to please one another. Doesn't sound like your BF understands that concept.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:58am
There is no right or wrong amount of times a week/month to have sex as long as it is MUTUALLY acceptable by both partners.

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Registered: 08-29-2004
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 3:12am
ok, this is just a theory. i can't say if it's right - but maybe you can think over how he acts and see if it fits his behavior:

your boyfriend feels too tired for sex sometimes. maybe he feels a little self-conscious about it (you know, he feels like "a real man" should want to have sex any time his girl is up for it - and he doesn't want you to think he's not "a real man"). so he's compensating by making up little reasons why *you* don't turn him on. like maybe if your vagina were tighter he'd be up for it all the time... or maybe if your breasts were big enough for him to "tittie-f" you, then he'd be up for it all the time...

the point is, maybe these little criticisms he has are not about you at all. they're about him and his own insecurity about his libido.

what do you think? does that make sense to you?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 5:41pm
sumguy,

Aren't those contractions incedible when you're inside? I've only had a couple of other men mention this so DW / I and you / your SO must have something special going on. I know for this (and about a million other) reason I'd never want to jump into bed with anyone but DW. It just wouldn't be worth it; she's just so fantastic.

I'm not sure I understand the women who tighten their opening to prevent reentry. When DW pops me out we both want to get me back inside ASAP. LOL!

The Taoist technique is to use contractions of the PC muscles, deep breathing, etc. to control the ejaculation and have orgasms without ejaculating. I'm far from perfect at it, but frequently I can have 2-3 orgasms in a session and not feel "depleted" even though I'm 52.

taoist

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 6:37pm
I don't understand what you are saying... please explain. How could it NOT be about me? I mean, he's always looking at porn and jerks off to it... he's rather watch porn than have sex with me. Have you ever heard of this? Is this unusual? I'm beginning to wonder whether ot not I satisfy my man. He says I do-- that I make him happy (in bed), but if that was the case, we would be having sex more than ONCE a week, don't you think? But I also believe it when he say's he is "too tired" to have sex. He does work hard (he builds fences for a living). Maybe it is HIM-- and NOT ME. Maybe you're right. If only I knew what he was thinking...
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 8:22pm
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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 3:21am
ok, now that you mention the porn thing, that changes everything. now i really think this has *nothing* to do with your body. no guy on earth is going to pick a picture over a flesh-and-blood woman unless there's something else going on...

i think he's criticizing your body as an excuse. what he's really doing is avoiding intimacy with you. he'd rather have a totally emotionless encounter with a picture in a magazine or a video. when he does cave in and have sex with you, he rushes through it to keep any feelings of intimacy to a minimum.

now, why he's avoiding intimate feelings - that i don't know. is there tension between the two of you outside the bedroom?