Vagina Tightness...

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Vagina Tightness...
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:11am
My man & I haven't had sex for a whole week, so we did tonight. After we had finished (he didn't even last 5 minutes, but that's beside the point), he said, "I thought you'd pu**y be tighter." (since it'd been a week) I asked him, "What? It was tighter last time?" He responded, "Yeah." I was hurt by this. "Well, maybe I should have it stitched up." I said. I was hurt by this, but atleast I appreciate him being honest with me. What should I do to strengthen my PC muscles? Kegel exercises? Does it actually work? Does it make your pu**y tighter? I heard it does. My man says that I satisfy him, but when he makes a comment like that, it makes me wonder... Please help!!! (I haven't had any kids or anything-- my vagina's too big, that's all!)
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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 1:03pm
Hightek, I suggest that you sit down and write down all the pros and cons of your relationship and compare the two. From all you've shared here, I don't see why you're willing to bend yourself into a pretzel for this guy. You know, De-Nial isn't just a river in Egypt.

Dump this guy and start building your self confidence and get your medical situation squared away. Then maybe you'll be able to develop a healthy relationship with someone who can give you what you want and need.


Edited 10/9/2004 1:05 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:00am
No, there's no tension outside the bedroom... we get along most of the time. We haven't had sex over a week now... I asked him today if he wanted to have sex & he said, "Naw, I don't feel like it." The past few days he's been jerking off to porn, though-- not b/c he just wanted to-- he was on coke (cocaine). Cocaine makes people horny, for some strange reason. He can't have sex being on coke... it makes him sweat a lot & he doesn't have the energy to do it, but he's rather look at porn & jerk off to that. I hate my sex life! I've never had an orgasm- I can never get wet- he calls the shots when it comes to sex... it's not fair!!! (<---No wonder people cheat-- it's b/c they're not sexually satisfied!)
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 12:07pm

He rather do cocaine instead of having sex with you, he rather watch porn than have sex with you, he calls the shots when it comes to sex, his way, his terms, when he feels like, he criticizes your body, tells you your vagina is too loose, your boobs are too small, he has no respect or consideration for your feelings and you think you have a good relationship with this guy and there is no tension outside the bedroom???


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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 3:19pm
Perhaps I want to be in denial... I keep thinking that he's going to change someday. I have a whole lot of changing to do myself. I'm no near perfect. I do drugs, as well.
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 3:39pm
Bingo! You said it, hightek. You do want to be in denial. That's what the drug use is about and that's what ignoring your BF's maltreatment is about. It's easier to deny than to acknowledge and make changes. But nothing will improve in your life until you ask for help. Step out and take a chance on making your life better.
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Fri, 10-22-2004 - 6:50pm
I didn't do any drugs today, but he did. I knew he was going to get some today. When he came home with thr drugs, I told him that I didn't want any... I told him, "You've gotta help me stop." I am proud of myself. I deserve a brownie point.
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:29am
Lack of libido isnt his problem. Masturbation is one of his problems. He doesnt respect you, or your feelings. The reason why he masturbates is hes selfish. He would rather have his orgasm without any responsibility of pleasing you. Masturbation becomes a problem when it takes away from a mutally satisfying sex life. The fact that he doesnt take the time so that you too can really enjoy sex is a big red flag.

Seems to me hightek, is that you have on your hands a typical bad boy, a guy who may have attractve physical qualities, but lacks the character, empathy,and motivation to become a good person to be in a loving relationship with. Your hopes of changing him are fleeting at best. Move on, you deserve better.
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:56am
Him: "I thought you'd be tighter."

You: "I thought you'd be bigger."

He's only calling the shots because you're letting him. Tell him you aren't happy, and if he isn't willing to shape up, you need to move on. Don't cheat on him. Leave him.

But by all means do your Kegels. They strengthen your orgasm, and prevent incontinence.

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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 3:41pm
It's too late for that-- I've all ready cheated on him. Why did I cheat? B/c he treated me badly (called me names, put me down, was always at his friend's house & never home) and b/c I did not love him, like I "thought" I did. Instead, I cheated on him by sleeping with someone from the past & I've gotta say that he's way better in bed (the guy I cheated on him with).
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Tue, 12-14-2004 - 3:05pm
I think that the more people you have sex with, the more your vagina becomes "loose." Am I right or wrong?