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vaginal tear?
| Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:13am |
I have been having vaginal tearing when having sex with my boyfriend. And it makes it painful for me to have sex. This has never happened to me before so I dont really understand why it is happening. It been for the past 5 months,(we've been together 6) Sometimes he does enter me way! to quick, before Im wet enough. and it hurts. but he's been doing better. but sometimes he still gets in to big of a hurry. So maybe its because Im too dry. Ive been trying to get him to slow it down and do more foreplay, he's working on it but not quite there yet. This is the only thing I can think of that could be causing these little cuts. Or is it too much sex? If anyone has any advice please help. I dont know what to do about it. I only see him on the weekends because he stay s far, and so we do have sex kind of a lot. But like I said Ive never had a problem with sex before so I dont know what I should do. thanks

If you're not wet and aroused enough, that can cause tearing.
Don't allow him to treat you this way.
Welcome to the board, cutie_pie2007.
Being properly aroused is important, but even more important is being properly lubricated. Normally, this is part of the arousal process. I would insist he wait until your ready for him to enter you -- after you're properly aroused and well lubricated. Since you're having frequent sex on those weekends, lubrication could become a problem even with proper arousal. If you still want to have sex in that situation, then you need to add artificial lubrication. There are tons of products on the market, but make sure whatever you choose is designed to be used internally. All you need is a water based lube, especially if you're using condoms for protection. Some lubes can not be used with condoms, so be sure to select one that works for your circumstances.
As Tish said, make sure the tears are healed before having sex again. You don't want to end up with an infection. If you do feel that there is an infection, if the tears won't heal, or if you continue to have this problem despite the use of lube, then be sure to visit your gyn.
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