vaginal tears

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Registered: 06-09-2004
vaginal tears
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:51am

i was wondering if any ladies have experienced a vaginal tear.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:23pm

If your b/f cares so little about your health that you feel you can't maintain your relationship without sex for two weeks........you have a problem!


Don't ever get pregnant if that's the case.......sometimes after giving birth you can't have intercourse for several weeks!


There are things he can do for you that don't involve intercourse, too......so why should you just "service" him?


A tear needs time to heal......and if you keep opening the wound continually, you might even wind up with an infection!

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 2:05pm

Welcome to the board, Peri.

The tear isn't going to heal if you keep re-injuring it. The best thing to do is let it completely heal before you put the stress that intercourse can cause on it. That doesn't mean you can't participate in oral sex, or maybe even manual stimulation. I would avoid any contact with the area for a week or so to give it a head start, and then take things slowly, using lots of lube, and stop if you feel any discomfort at all.

I'm with Sakura on this one .... if having to wait until you're physically able to have sex puts such a strain on your relationship, especially given that this is such a short term fix, that doesn't speak well for the relationship. As far as fair, well, you have to decide if you want to pleasure him and what benefits there are in that for you. Personally, I don't have a problem doing that, and I get a lot of enjoyment out of it .... but if he made me feel as if I had to take care of him, then we would have a huge problem. There's just no room in a sexual relationship for selfishness.



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Registered: 03-16-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:20pm
I'm a little bit perplexed as to what caused the tear in the first place. Is it a tear caused by something physical, an abrasion, or is it caused by something like an infection? Because the healing of the tear and the prevention of it reappearing should, in my mind, be the first concern you have. If it is a health concern, then that is the most important, don't you think? You said you went to the doc, he wasn't much help, well, what did he actually say? No yeast infection? No signs of other infection?

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 4:08pm

Yes the tear occured from sex.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 4:46pm

Let yourself heal and worry about yourself 1st and if you need 2,3,4 weeks or more and you're not "feeling like it" tell you new boyfriend that he has two hands and is more than capable of taking his needs into his own hands until you feel you are ready.

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 5:07pm
Thanks.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 6:05pm
I had tears and didnt know it.
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Registered: 10-27-2007
Sat, 08-23-2008 - 6:15pm

hi peri


yeah i got same problem..my hubby tear my vagina at my first night....Dh got very big size so he tore my vagina next mornign i cannot walk properly so at evening i went to doctor ..doctor stop me to don hv sex one week and take some medicine..it take time to healup....


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