Vaginas: size and variation
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| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 4:53pm |
But, if you ask a man that has had a few lovers, he KNOWS that women vary in size and capacity as much as men's penises vary in size...and we all know that men do vary in size quite a bit. Quoting humpdaddy: "In my experience vaginas come in different depths just as penises come in different lengths."
I know this from talking to other women, too. I have a friend who told me (embarrassed) that if a penis isn't huge, she almost can't even feel it, and the only penises that satisfy her are enormous. (She had two vaginal births.) I'm the opposite. Although I'm 5'6" and not small-boned (more like average in overall size), I'm very tight and small down there. (I've had one c-section birth so no baby has passed through.) Men have exclaimed about the tightness several times in my sexual experience. My hubby, most especially. I never knew this about myself (or ever would have thought it) until former boyfriends said it. The first time we made love, he looked amazed and wide-eyed and said, "You are as tight as an 18 year old!" He still comments on it to this day. His ex's vagina was loose/bigger.
So, I've wondered for years...does childbirth sometimes, or maybe often, change a woman's vaginal size? Often, breasts sag after nursing, we all know that. What about the other?
I wonder if some young women and/or never-had-babies women sometimes have bigger vaginal canals, too?

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Humpdaddy, thanks for the male point of view. It would be nice to hear from even more men, too.
I had sex for the first time when I was 16. He was a **very** well-hung man. I never felt anything for a few months after we began having sex. Nothing, nada, zip, zilch...and the main reason was lack of arousal and over lubrication. I was new to sex and in hindsight, not ready for it. Not until we became more relaxed and knowledgeable did we finally "feel" each other. I say each other, because whatever the man or woman feels, most likely the other is feeling as well. He was the largest man I'd ever been with, and the others were average(not small), and the feelings was tight as ever because I was properly aroused enough(not just slightly). I've had two easy vaginal births, and I breast-fed both of my children and I'm as tight as ever and my breasts don't sag. As big as my DH is, there are still occasional times(if I'm not too aroused and there's too much lubrication) that I won't feel him. I didn't all of a sudden become loose. Because an hour later, it's as tight as ever. It's not any different than a man who isn't fully erect....he's not at his full potential. He'd not only not be felt by the woman, but he wouldn't have much sensation either.
I think that there are many factors that would make a normal(not damaged) vagina "appear" loose. Unarousal, over lubrication, and a not fully erect penis, are probably the most likely culprits.
The six men I've been with were of all different sizes and widths, and none of them "changed" the size of my vagina. If I didn't date my first for 2 more years after we first had sex, he probably would have thought I was a loose woman(even though he was my first). It was just inexperience. As big as he was, he didn't "stretch" me out for my subsequent lovers. Estrogen is the hormone responsible for vaginal elasticity...I just figured I have a good amount....otherwise my DH's girth would have made me the bottomless pit by now! ;-)
Just to clarify this: "Just a note(after reading about your YOUNG friend).....
I had sex for the first time when I was 16..."
My friend wasn't *that* young. She was younger than me, though. She was 30 at the time she told me that, had been married and divorced, and had a history of quite a few partners. She said it was the same with all the men she'd been with, except for the two very huge ones she told me about.
Thanks. :)
Well...you specified "YOUNG woman" and women's vagina's pre-childbirth....both indicating(generally speaking), fairly young woman...(bad assumption on my part).
I don't think that the female anatomy, both in living specimens and cadavas would lie about the fact that most women's vagina's are basically the same size. Of course, there's lack of estrogen(elasticity) and injury to consider,which may have very well have been the case with your friend. There are always exceptions to the rule, but honestly, I think if it were THAT common, we'd certainly hear men AND women complaining an awful lot. As I said, what a woman feels a man feels. If anything, the proof is in the pudding....as I understand it, most men on average orgasm within three to five minutes of intercourse...logically, that wouldn't be the case if most penises(or is that peni) weren't receiving the correct stimuli. IN fact, that would probably put most men on the "can't orgasm from intercourse" wagon. Nope, I still agree with the medical findings, that most vaginas are created equal in size(with the exceptions of injury and lack of estrogen.
Edited 7/9/2004 6:45 pm ET ET by free_to_choose
Edited 7/9/2004 9:04 pm ET ET by free_to_choose
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