Vaginas: size and variation
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| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 4:53pm |
But, if you ask a man that has had a few lovers, he KNOWS that women vary in size and capacity as much as men's penises vary in size...and we all know that men do vary in size quite a bit. Quoting humpdaddy: "In my experience vaginas come in different depths just as penises come in different lengths."
I know this from talking to other women, too. I have a friend who told me (embarrassed) that if a penis isn't huge, she almost can't even feel it, and the only penises that satisfy her are enormous. (She had two vaginal births.) I'm the opposite. Although I'm 5'6" and not small-boned (more like average in overall size), I'm very tight and small down there. (I've had one c-section birth so no baby has passed through.) Men have exclaimed about the tightness several times in my sexual experience. My hubby, most especially. I never knew this about myself (or ever would have thought it) until former boyfriends said it. The first time we made love, he looked amazed and wide-eyed and said, "You are as tight as an 18 year old!" He still comments on it to this day. His ex's vagina was loose/bigger.
So, I've wondered for years...does childbirth sometimes, or maybe often, change a woman's vaginal size? Often, breasts sag after nursing, we all know that. What about the other?
I wonder if some young women and/or never-had-babies women sometimes have bigger vaginal canals, too?

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You said you never hear of such a thing, complaints from people. They're there. Men would never tell their partner of course, if he thinks she's looser than other women he's been with, no more than we'd tell our man that he's smaller. Most women prefer a certain size of course (we all have different preferences), but still women tell men "size doesn't matter, honey". Men would say the same thing to a woman. ;-D Have you ever heard terms like loosey goosey? People do talk about it.
Wow, that would be quite dissapointing for me! I haven't heard that being the average. In a medical journal, I read the average is 14 minutes. Even that seems a short time, though. Men can do much better with practice and certain strategies. My hubby and I have intercourse for a long time and in different positions before his orgasm. I'm very appreciative, because I have vaginal orgasms and the longer we go, the more and better mine are.
Did your friend go her whole marriage without him orgasming from intercourse? I'm assuming that's the case since he was not getting the proper stimulation? If so, it's not the end of the world to be without intercourse. I'f DH became impotent, I'd improvise.
Please don't assume to KNOW what MY preference would be. I prefer a good man; his penis size would be irrelevant...and even if I had a tiny man, I wouldn't go around making fun of him, nor any other man who was...just as I think that the term "loose" shouldn't be thrown around.
I said that women have "preferences" where penis size is concerned. A woman can love steak and she can love lobster, but maybe she prefers one over the other. Men have all kinds of preferences too, and seem very interested in breast size and even the color and length of a woman's hair as one being more preferable or attractive to him than another...but he can and does still love and accept the one that he loves.
You said, "In one of your posts, you commented on how your DH compares you to his ex. How much tighter you are. Well....I equate that to comparing penis size as well."
I never said that my husband outright compared me to his ex. From the first time we made love, he just got wide-eyed, made an exclamation, and commented about my tightness in a sort of amazed way. It was just by his reactions and obvious enthusiasm about it that I realized there must be quite a difference. He's VERY complimentary of the way we fit, if you want to put it that way.
"I just wouldn't compare past lovers to my DH and I would not appreciate him comparing me to others, even if I were the better of them."
There are all kinds of subtle ways that people convey a comparison to others without being offensive. Just simple reactions give it away sometimes, too (like above example). If you don't want to hear comparisons (even complimentary ones) from your husband, that's fine. Why should you care if others have discussed it, or have had a positive comparison? One of the loveliest compliments I've ever gotten from my husband was based on a comparison, when he's told me that I'm the best lover he's ever had. That's a thrilling thing for many people to hear from the one they love. He's gotten the same *honest* compliment from me, too.
"You obviously discuss these things with you DH, I don't. My DH still doesn't know the sizes of the other men I had."
If you are inferring that my husband knows the sizes of other men I've had, you're wrong. He doesn't. *I* didn't know their actual sizes...I've never measured a man before or been told by him. That being said, if some couples openly talk about that and both are fine with it, it doesn't bother me in the least.
You seem very offended by this whole discussion. We all *know* what the experts say about a woman's size. I think I stated it right in the first post. We're talking about our experiences and personal knowledge which prove otherwise to us. Can you argue that we've experienced what we've experienced? You weren't there. ;-)
I didn't assume. From your first post:....
"You are as tight as an 18 year old!" He still comments on it to this day. His ex's vagina was loose/bigger.
In this thread alone, there were women who are NOT teenagers and who have had multiple children have confirmed that their vagina's have been unchanged with age, and that includes you(I don't know your age).
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