Vaginas: size and variation
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| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 4:53pm |
But, if you ask a man that has had a few lovers, he KNOWS that women vary in size and capacity as much as men's penises vary in size...and we all know that men do vary in size quite a bit. Quoting humpdaddy: "In my experience vaginas come in different depths just as penises come in different lengths."
I know this from talking to other women, too. I have a friend who told me (embarrassed) that if a penis isn't huge, she almost can't even feel it, and the only penises that satisfy her are enormous. (She had two vaginal births.) I'm the opposite. Although I'm 5'6" and not small-boned (more like average in overall size), I'm very tight and small down there. (I've had one c-section birth so no baby has passed through.) Men have exclaimed about the tightness several times in my sexual experience. My hubby, most especially. I never knew this about myself (or ever would have thought it) until former boyfriends said it. The first time we made love, he looked amazed and wide-eyed and said, "You are as tight as an 18 year old!" He still comments on it to this day. His ex's vagina was loose/bigger.
So, I've wondered for years...does childbirth sometimes, or maybe often, change a woman's vaginal size? Often, breasts sag after nursing, we all know that. What about the other?
I wonder if some young women and/or never-had-babies women sometimes have bigger vaginal canals, too?

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I'll second that thought. It's not only attributed to young women either, I've heard the strangest things from the mouths of women over 40. You'd think after that many years of sexual activity they would have gained more knowledge.
Leticia
You seem to be saying that anyone who disagrees with you on this topic is ignorant. You're talking to people who have been there, with different partners through their adult life. We are speaking out of *experience* here. Adult experience. If you don't like the opinions shared by others here, why do you feel it's your duty to disagree and debate every minute point? When you turn a thread like this into a shooting gallery, you basically shut down the flow of the conversation. Someone who may have had something to add might choose to stay quiet, knowing they're next to get picked apart.
Sharing thoughts and being *open* to receiving new information is the way people learn and grow. Immediately pronouncing that they are wrong, misinformed and ignorant is...well, ignorant.
I'm sure you'll be responding with a sermon again. Be my guest. I won't be reading it. There are *many* sex topic boards all over iVillage, and none of them seem to be as judgemental and hen-pecked as this board is. There are other places to go and talk about sex, which is what I'll be doing. It's a shame, though. This board gets a lot more traffic, and it could be a good one. This board is called "Let's Talk About Sex". The paragraph at the top of the board sounds very openminded and accepting of people's opinions. False advertising, I guess.
Question: I'm not sexually active yet but the other day I used a vibrator to see what it was like and my problem is that it wouldn't go into my vagina at all. Could it be that I am "tight"? I can use tampons with ease. Is there anything wrong with me? And how can I fix this problem, I'm worried that when I do have sex with a guy that his penis wont be able to enter my vagina at all. Thanks for your help.
Answer: I am sure you are perfectly normal. Your vagina is a "potential" space, not an opening or hole in your body. Your body must make room for whatever enters your vagina. I suspect between your hymen and pelvic muscles your body in not ready for the insertion of something as large as a vibrator. You are correct in wanting to make sure your body is prepared for intercourse prior to actually doing it. Please see the pages about Virginity in the Intercourse section for the information you seek. Information on preparing the vagina for intercourse is presented there.
Edited 7/11/2004 1:57 pm ET ET by lauranmac
If we can accomodate an infant and then go back to the usual vaginal circumference within a month or two, we can certainly accomodate a penis! The vagina isn't skin that stretches 'out' and doesn't regain its former state. It's a network of muscle, active working muscle.
Edited 7/11/2004 7:14 pm ET ET by tally33
So you certainly cant judge a book by its cover. :)
Same with guys too I would add. The biggest man I've ever been with was about 5ft9 (and it was at LEAST 11 inches...freak of nature).
the stretching you refer to is on the outside of the vagina, not the vagina itself. some women have an epsiotomy during childbirth because the baby is coming fast and the skin hasn't had time to stretch.rather than them rip,they're cut.it has nothing to do with the vagina, just the skin on the outside.they don't cut your vagina.
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