vanity question for guys out there???
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vanity question for guys out there???
| Thu, 06-23-2005 - 2:38pm |
I 'm a twenty year old college student who has recently put on about 30 pounds over my freshman and sophmore year. I have tried to get down to my former weight but it has been difficult for me with work and school. Before I put on weight I considered myself to be very attractive and I have a great personality. I' m getting tired of living the single life and I'm really looking for a handsome nice guy to settle down with. Do you think my extra weight will prevent me from finding the perfect guy? Is there decent guys out there who look past a girl's figure cause it seems to me their in short supply?

Of course there are.
You bet there are decent guys out there! I met my DH when I was in college and after putting on that inevitable "freshman 15." I was heavier than I'd ever been in my life.
At the end of the day, though, it's what's inside a person that matters, not the outside. And most guys figure that out eventually. But the ones that would brush you off because of a little extra weight, don't deserve your time and attention anyway, do they?
Do the things that make you happy, hold out for quality and the right guy will find YOU! Mine did.
Edited 6/23/2005 3:42 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Mrs. Para has been pleasantly plump since birth, LOL, and it hasn't stopped ME! My first time with an overweight woman too.
You'll find both guys that do AND don't mind at all, so just keep your selections carefully selective, lol. You have all the opportunity in the world to end up with a great guy that sees you for YOU.
C H A R A C T E R
You're looking for the "perfect" guy.....Handsome, decent, etc. Good Luck is all I can say. There are very few "perfect" men OR women. If you meet a guy who's also looking for the "perfect" woman, he's not going to be interested.
Thankfully, there are many guys, as well as women, who are capable of looking beyond a few extra pounds (which you can get rid of if they bother YOU so much!) and the beautiful or handsome face. If you meet a decent guy, who makes you happy, to YOU, he will be handsome.....even if your friends don't see him that way.
You need to worry less about the package, and concentrate on what's inside.....yourself, and a man that you might meet.
I agree with everything that has been said here so far. Just keep in mind that guys your age are likely to be a little more visual than they will be in a few years when they mature and realize that looks are not everything. If you find the guys your age to be a little too shallow, consider moving up the age range a few years. Most guys are happy to be with a nice girl who is reasonably close to her healthy weight.
Ray
I'm 5'2 and weigh about 200. I was divorced 2 years ago. Met a guy on match.com. We married 3 months ago. He tells me constantly how beautiful I am. He loves my kids and is an excellent stepfather. It can happen!
You go girl!
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.