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Verbal Stimulation
| Tue, 05-17-2005 - 1:51pm |
I've noticed that as I've grown older (I'm 51) that I require more verbal stimulation from my wife during sex in order to achieve orgasm. My wife used to excite me greatly by sharing her past sexual experiences. However, now she is reluctant for fear of jealousy on my part. The stories excite me, they don't make me jealous! How can I convince my wife to share stories of her past sexual experiences?

Well...I guess that would depend. Some people feel that it's a private matter to go into detail and that there should be an unspoken code in place that protects the innocent(those whom she had sex with); out of respect. I guess some people don't see it that way though. DH and I have shared our pasts(only three years ago), but did not delve into deep detail. We didn't do it to arouse one other, we did it out of mere curiosity. Prior to that time, I hadn't even known his sexual past and he didn't know mine.
P.S. I don't remember too much of the sex I had prior to him anyhow. It was all a blur. ;-)
Edited 5/17/2005 3:46 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Why are you hung up on HER PAST experiences? Why not just leave it at fantasy and get her to talk dirty to you about what SHE'D LIKE NOW, that would be mutually beneficial I'd think.
I don't know, the whole idea of bringing up past sexual experiences for your pleasure just seems kind of creepy to me.
Hey ricky!
I think each couple decides that differently. One way to look at it, regarding whether or not it is right for you, is to simply discover if you to are comfortable with it or not...
...correction...if you two are it or not. If not, then I think there's your answer.
By what I've read so far, maybe you need to have an even heart to heart talk with her than you already have so that you know if she even wants that anymore or not. If she isn't doing it on her own accord, then I'm guessing, just a guess, that signifies she isn't interested.
Talk with her again, and find out for sure how she feels. Thats my take on it by what I've read so far.
Hope the replies help ya. :)
C H A R A C T E R
Or while she is performing oral sex on me she will ask me "You know why I am such a good c##ksucker? It's because of all those guys I sucked."