Very tight

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Very tight
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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 4:23pm

Hi everyone!

For the past week or two it has been a bit difficult for my boyfriend to enter me. I've been wet and I feel well lubricated before he enters but as soon as he puts himself in, it feels very tight and it hurts a little. It's fine after we get into the motion but it's just that initial entering that has been hard.

Any ideas?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: curiousj3
Sat, 08-18-2007 - 4:47pm

Hormone levels can affect your wetness. If you're on hormonal birth control, entering stages of menopause, pregnant or a host of other things, your hormones might be going through changes. Alcohol and caffeine consumption, medications, and smoking are other things that can affect your bodies hydration level. Also, your hormones fluctuate naturally through the month with your menstrual cycle.

If you can think of any changes over the last couple of weeks, that might explain the problem. You could also give it a little time to see if it changes again within the next month. In the meantime, try having him add lube before he enters you and see if that takes away the discomfort.

Keep us posted and let us know how things go.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: curiousj3
Sat, 08-18-2007 - 4:47pm
Two things it might be.....not enough foreplay, which relaxes the vaginal and pc muscles, or you're not as wet as you think, and you need some lube. This can also be from not enough foreplay. Try more foreplay AND some lube, that should help.
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Registered: 08-15-2007
In reply to: curiousj3
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 1:33am
thats pretty normal to swell if the sex was rougher than normal or a lot more frequent, like several time in 1 day, i would use ky lubreciate
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In reply to: curiousj3
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 9:28am

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Registered: 10-01-2006
In reply to: curiousj3
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 6:29am

Thanks guys!

I'm definitely wet enough- he has been using lube as well. I'm only 21 and I'm not on any meds except I am on the pill. It slides in fine but it's just very tight. We have been having sex everyday (usually twice a day) so maybe I'm just swollen? ( hadn't thought of that, thank you!). Is there anything I can do to reduce that ?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: curiousj3
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:11am

Saying "it's very tight" just doesn't make sense. The vagina is very elastic and can deliver a baby, so it can certainly stretch to accommodate a penis.

It is likely that you will swell if you have very frequent sex, especially if you are not well lubricated and there is extra friction. While you say you are plenty wet, your wetness can vary at different times during sex. A lot of things combine to go into the arousal level you experience, and a lot of things can combine to affect the ability for your body to produce lubrication. Somethings as simple as drinking caffeine can affect your hydration level. Even though you say you are using lube, perhaps you need to use more lube.

If you're still swelling and feeling uncomfortable, then you just need to take a longer break between times that you have sex.



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Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: curiousj3
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:00am

I noticed this right away in part of your original post:

"It's fine after we get into the motion but it's just that initial entering that has been hard."

So after you get started it feels good and doesn't hurt is what you are saying right? If it really bothers you at the beginning you may ask your BF to use his fingers to stretch your vaginal opening out a bit before he tries to enter you. I know everyone says that the vaginal opening will stretch to accomdate the birth of a child but that is after MONTHS of intense hormones that are delivered into your body precisely to make your vagianal canal and opening elastic enough to have a baby. Being on the 'tight' end (sorry lol) myself I understand what you are saying though. I had three children and after my body got back to normal for all of them there are still times during the beginning of IC that my man has a little bit of problem entering me. No matter how wet and ready I seem to me. My current SO has said that at times he thinks the doctors added an extra stitch when they sewed up the tears made by my last baby haha. But he doesn't complain. Lucky for me he is of average size (he always thought he was smaller than normal till he met me and I told him I am glad he is NORMAL sized so we can have frequent IC). It will definitely help to have your BF 'stretch' you with his fingers before he tries to enter. And when he does enter you, ask him to do it slowly until you are ready. I am sure he won't mind. That way you can get to the point where it feels good (like you said in your post) and tell him to have at it!

Good luck.

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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: curiousj3
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 4:45pm

You're BF sound's like one lucky guy.