Viagra and sex - what to expect?

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Registered: 09-19-2004
Viagra and sex - what to expect?
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 7:53pm
I have been dating a man and we are going to be moving towards sex soon. He has explained that when he is taking blood pressure medication he has to take Viagra so we have to plan a little bit for when we are going to do this. I have always treated sex/love-making with a little more spontaneity and more mental foreplay that led to a nice encounter, so this is a little different for me. I am a little concerned about how this will work. I am actually concerned about his erection lasting too long. Should I be? How will it be different than being with someone who does not have ED and has not ever had to take the enhancements? Can someone tell me a little about what to expect?

Thanks for the help,

D.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 10:01pm
Really, not a whole lot of difference. My DH has been taking Levitra for almost a year now, also due to meds he takes. The only thing is, you can't grab him and instantly start having sex. The good thing is, if you start some fondling and want it to move to sex, he can take the pill and you can have some extra foreplay time waiting for it to kick in! You can still do the mental (and physical) stuff before. Spontaneity is only affected slightly, rather like planning on having condoms (and having to take a minute to roll it on). You won't have to wait hours for it to start working.

DH's erection does last a bit longer, but not hours and hours. Since he sometimes used to be a bit quick on the draw, this is actually a plus, since it's a given that I'll have time to get mine before he does! I'm liking that part of it very much.

The only drawback is that sometimes he's in the mood and pops a pill without knowing for sure, and I'm really tired and not feeling much like sex. It hasn't happened often, but it has happened.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:38am
I agree with other posts, its no big. You can always take it then snuggle for 20 minutes till it kicks in.

IF his BP meds are the cause he might want to talk to his GP about changing meds some drugs are less likely to cause ED than others. A lot of people have cured that issue by switching BP meds.

Some guys have also been try a different approach which is to take a Cialis every 72 hours or 3 days, ongoing. That way they always have some blood level and don't have to worry about taking Viagra before sex. Its also lowers blood pressure. Its in the same drug class a viagra which was originally developed as a blood pressure med. The effect on ED was a accidental discovery. :-)

I hear the post about taking the pill then discover wife's not in the mood oops is my face red :-) Its right up there with take the pill while when wife is washing up then whoosh oops periods here a couple of days early.

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:38pm
My question with Viagra is whether one might end up with a raging erection but no longer in the mood. Most of the time, after my orgasm, I'm completely wrung out. I can get another erection if DW "jump starts" me, and I sometimes enjoy giving her oral afterwards for a round two, but honestly most of the time, when I'm finished, I'm psychologically finished. Does Viagra change that?

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:36pm
Not really. He doesn't get an erection until we start actually fooling around. It doesn't really work like 'pop a pill, pop a boner' lol. It gives you the ability to finish what your mind is already anticipating. (does that make sense...?) It gives him the ability to get an erection, but it doesn't *give* him the erection. And once we're done, he's ok. He comes and it's over. He may occasionally feel like going a second round, but it's not often - usually we snuggle up and both head off to sleep after and he's content.

All in all, it's been a godsend. When he started on the meds, it was so terribly frustrating for both of us when he could *never* orgasm and rarely stayed hard. It wasn't a sexual frustration for me, but rather an emotional one because I felt for him. I never made a big deal about it and I knew it was the medication, but I was bothered for *him*. Just knowing - even if it takes taking a pill - that we will absolutely be able to have sex is good for both of us.

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:28pm
Thanks! I appreciate the

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 12:21am
I've only read about it....never been with anyone who used it. But what I've read is that Viagra doesn't GIVE you an erection, it helps you have one by increasing the blood flow to and within the penis WHEN you're aroused. If you're not aroused, you won't get an erection. Since that's the case, I would think that after you've ejaculated, the erection would go away, just as it does without the Viagra.

Since you have to get it from your doctor, you should make up a list of all the questions you have, and ask the doctor, who should know the answers to any questions you might have.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:14pm
No it doesn't cause an erection it just facilitates the mechanism by relaxing the soft muscle that lets blood into the penis. The signal to get erect still has to come form the brain and being stimulated.