Video game interfering with sex

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Video game interfering with sex
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:35pm
Before anyone assumes I'm so anal that DH doesn't want to make love to me, just read me out..
We have a PS2..It was our Christmas gift to eachother the first year we were together because DH and I like to kick back every now and then and play a good game. Well, recently, DH out and rented Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas for me to play to relieve my stress. I get to steal cars, beat people up, run people over, crash cars and all in all relieve my stress..Since my hip surgery, I was advised not to return to martial arts and so I didn't have a way to deal with my anger in a positive way. The game has been fun to play. I love playing it. But..DH is obsessed with playing it. The first thing he does after we've put DD to bed is turn on the PS2 and start playing the game. I'll usually play with him until I fall asleep on the couch. Then at about 3 a.m. he puts us to bed. He can't get up for work in the morning because he stayed up so late. At first it didn't bother me, but now I can't even tear my DH away from it long enough to make love to him. All I want to do is make love to him and I've done that not at all this week.
I've tried prying him away from it with nighties and going to take showers..usually within two minutes of me hopping in the shower, he's right there behind me and in too. Now, he's in the same spot as I left him.
How the heck do I get him to be as attentive to me as he is to the game?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:50pm

Grand theft auto is apparently a


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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 11:46pm
I guess that the novelty will wear off after a while. I guess that you could make a point and hide the game or throw it out too - but he's likely to sulk over that. Anyway, hasn't the boss been a bit cheesed off that he's late for work and a walking zombie when he is there? I'd be more worried about that.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:42am
I agree with Tish. When little boys are bad, you take their toys away.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:33am
I would agree. Seems as if the threat of losing his job would be enough incentive to moderate his play. Particularly with a new baby on the way!
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:03pm

"When little boys are bad, you take their toys away."

Wow, imagine the flames if one of the male posters said that about a woman.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:07pm
You know the old saying.....the difference between men and boys is the price of their toys!
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 6:27pm

>>Wow, imagine the flames if one of the male posters said that<<

LOL! Yep. I'd be putting the flame-proof suit on!

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:13pm

Wow. That seems harsh. They have something that they completely enjoy, and you take it away . . and HIDE it? Are you your DH's mother, too?

Maybe you need a different hobby besides making people miserable so they pay more attention to you.

 

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:31pm

I agree. I'm not his mom.

When we first got our home PC in 2000, I was so engrossed in it. I had never been online until then, never. I was on it before work. I was on it after work. I would wake up at 2am and go downstairs, log on. I visited chat rooms (they were kinda cool for awhile), looked up song lyrics (those songs where you could *never* figure out what they were saying in that one part? Now I could!) I was ecstatic when the voice said "You Have Mail" I'll be honest, looking back now, I neglected my family for awhile. I mean, everyone had clean clothes and dinner and I still tucked the kids in bed at night. But I was busy exploring the WWW way too much. I even called out sick a few times just so I could stay online all day, with no interruptions.

DH grumbled a bit but didn't 'take my toy away'. He just was patient and the novelty wore off. I still like having it but it's not a big deal if I'm not online every day, or only get the computer for a few minutes in the evening after the kids are in bed. I really truly went through withdrawal if I couldn't spend hours online every night. It passed.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:55pm

Nope, when they sit for hours on end, the boy's bedrooms are a disaster area, the chores they have to do get left in the dust because they are sitting around playing games


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