Video game interfering with sex

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Video game interfering with sex
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:35pm
Before anyone assumes I'm so anal that DH doesn't want to make love to me, just read me out..
We have a PS2..It was our Christmas gift to eachother the first year we were together because DH and I like to kick back every now and then and play a good game. Well, recently, DH out and rented Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas for me to play to relieve my stress. I get to steal cars, beat people up, run people over, crash cars and all in all relieve my stress..Since my hip surgery, I was advised not to return to martial arts and so I didn't have a way to deal with my anger in a positive way. The game has been fun to play. I love playing it. But..DH is obsessed with playing it. The first thing he does after we've put DD to bed is turn on the PS2 and start playing the game. I'll usually play with him until I fall asleep on the couch. Then at about 3 a.m. he puts us to bed. He can't get up for work in the morning because he stayed up so late. At first it didn't bother me, but now I can't even tear my DH away from it long enough to make love to him. All I want to do is make love to him and I've done that not at all this week.
I've tried prying him away from it with nighties and going to take showers..usually within two minutes of me hopping in the shower, he's right there behind me and in too. Now, he's in the same spot as I left him.
How the heck do I get him to be as attentive to me as he is to the game?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:16pm

So, Tish, I guess your other option would be to allow your guys to get buried in their own dirty clothes, dishes, etc. while you enjoy pursuing your own hobbies selfishly without moderation or responsibility to anyone but yourself! Until you get tired of it, that is!

Listen, I've gone "on strike" before for the very same reasons and it's a very effective means of getting everyone's attention. When the clean clothes, hot meals and clean house disappear, things change pretty quickly.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 7:09am

"The same with Dh, if he slacks off on things that HAVE to be done around here, the games are gone. "

Oh. Ok. Just wanted to make things clear. You ARE your DH's mom, and he is 3. Right.

Funny, b/c MY mom managed to get us to stop playing our video games by ASKING us. Have you ever tried that one?

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 8:10am
Who knows, maybe we would enjoy living in a pig sty, if we just gave it half a chance.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 10:02am

Never mind, not worth


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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 10:38am

Ok, guess I deserved that. ;) Sarcasm begets sarcasm.

I just don't understand an adult relationship that involves treating the other like a 3 year old. I think you're just enabling your DH's and DS's childlike behavior by taking away their toys rather than talking to them. JMHO, of course.

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:42am

I might not have mentioned I talked to them, but I never said I did NOT talk to them.


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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:48am
I see what you're saying, and I understand your side. Would you be okay with your DH doing the same thing to you, or would you rather him talk to you instead? Do you think that if he found out about your taking the toy away and hiding and lying about it, that he would be upset or feel like you were treating him like a child? Or do you think that he would say that you did the right thing?

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 12:42pm

He


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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 12:44pm

"Do you think that if he found out about your taking the toy away and hiding and lying about it"

OK, where did she say she lied about it? I *have* a child, and when things get taken away I say they are gone, but in a way that lets them know *I* made them gone. I would be careful if I were you, you can lose your membership for personal attacks and you are clearly going after Tish.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 12:52pm

" He also said the bad boy in him might need a spanking later on"

ROFL, no wonder you two have been married so long.