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Video game interfering with sex
| Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:35pm |
Before anyone assumes I'm so anal that DH doesn't want to make love to me, just read me out..
We have a PS2..It was our Christmas gift to eachother the first year we were together because DH and I like to kick back every now and then and play a good game. Well, recently, DH out and rented Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas for me to play to relieve my stress. I get to steal cars, beat people up, run people over, crash cars and all in all relieve my stress..Since my hip surgery, I was advised not to return to martial arts and so I didn't have a way to deal with my anger in a positive way. The game has been fun to play. I love playing it. But..DH is obsessed with playing it. The first thing he does after we've put DD to bed is turn on the PS2 and start playing the game. I'll usually play with him until I fall asleep on the couch. Then at about 3 a.m. he puts us to bed. He can't get up for work in the morning because he stayed up so late. At first it didn't bother me, but now I can't even tear my DH away from it long enough to make love to him. All I want to do is make love to him and I've done that not at all this week.
I've tried prying him away from it with nighties and going to take showers..usually within two minutes of me hopping in the shower, he's right there behind me and in too. Now, he's in the same spot as I left him.
How the heck do I get him to be as attentive to me as he is to the game?
We have a PS2..It was our Christmas gift to eachother the first year we were together because DH and I like to kick back every now and then and play a good game. Well, recently, DH out and rented Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas for me to play to relieve my stress. I get to steal cars, beat people up, run people over, crash cars and all in all relieve my stress..Since my hip surgery, I was advised not to return to martial arts and so I didn't have a way to deal with my anger in a positive way. The game has been fun to play. I love playing it. But..DH is obsessed with playing it. The first thing he does after we've put DD to bed is turn on the PS2 and start playing the game. I'll usually play with him until I fall asleep on the couch. Then at about 3 a.m. he puts us to bed. He can't get up for work in the morning because he stayed up so late. At first it didn't bother me, but now I can't even tear my DH away from it long enough to make love to him. All I want to do is make love to him and I've done that not at all this week.
I've tried prying him away from it with nighties and going to take showers..usually within two minutes of me hopping in the shower, he's right there behind me and in too. Now, he's in the same spot as I left him.
How the heck do I get him to be as attentive to me as he is to the game?

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"I find your bahavior in this thread highly immature."
I can see that. However, if I had to come home and hide the PS2 disc from my chosen mate in life, I would be sickened by the lack of adult relationship that we had. And I feel like I'm living in Crazy World b/c I'm obviously the only person that feels this way.
The thing is that if I asked my DBF to do something, or to stop playing, and he wouldn't, and I had to HIDE the game from him for him to stop, I just don't think that is okay in any sort of way. I would think there would be a huge lack of respect in the relationship that I had to resort to those type of tactics.
But I'm learning here that it's totally normal to have to do that???
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I had the same problem when I took a temp assignment across town. He was getting home an hour before I was, so I asked him if he would take care of vacuuming and load the dishwasher and run it for me on those nights. Every night I came home, he was playing a computer game and the little things I asked him to do weren't getting done. I kept repeating myself, he kept agreeing. I got fed up and I simply unplugged the monitor from the computer and told him that I needed his help until my temp assignment was over with and then I could get back into the routine of being housewife again. He apologized and made things right. He didn't get mad at me until I accidentally knocked the monitor off the desk trying to hook it back up.
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I have the same problem with my bf...only it Halo on X box live.
ive debated just unplugging it to get his attention, but i hate that when im playing games, because all i play are rpgs and losing an unsaved game is devistating (lol).
so i bite him. thats how i get his attention; bite his neck, ear, arms, nibble shoulders etc....
the more he ignores me the harder i bite. (but this can lead to him purposfully "ignoring" me cause he likes getting bitten...lol)
but most of the time, i just get a controler, kill him a bunch of times and he gets the picture (as i sneak up behind him and pistol whip his ass...lol, sorry i had to say it)
best of luck!
That's funny, because I've never met one single human being in my life who was unselfish and reasonable 100% of the time!
And sometimes, words just aren't effective and it takes drastic action to bring attention to a problem. Particularly, when you're asking that person to adjust a behavior they may not want to.
Yes, EVEN normally reasonable and unselfish people can be human.
Edited 3/9/2005 10:24 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Hiya,
Let me kick in my two cents :) My husband is a computer game addict, i call it. He loves massive multiplayer online games. Tryin' to get some in on his schedule of time isn't easy - he loves those games. And after three years of dealing with it, i have just come to accept.
But I kidn of think its like this...men ...are men...but you gotta remember THEYRE ALL LITTLE BOYS ON THE INSIDE! *SMILES* And we , women, do mature quicker, faster, and stuff :D Ah, don't let it get to you too much, its certainly not you , ya know. Its the game, and its been scientificly proven that while women can multi task IE: do dishes while talking on the phoneand planning dinner...., men cannot. So when hes playing the game, hes playing the game. Thats about it, :)
Take it easy chick :)
Well stated Tally.
For me, it was the two new chainsaws, or the new toolbox, or the new computer, or the new PDA, or the business equipment, or the new this or the new that. I'd think its like that for everyone at some point or another.
Each couple or family has different ways of dealing with it and different levels of patience with it all for that matter too. I like the way you pointed everything out...hit close to home here. :)
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