Virgin Man Pains of Non-Virgin Woman

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Registered: 06-09-2005
Virgin Man Pains of Non-Virgin Woman
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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 3:12pm

I just met a lady, she is 27, really like her. After 2 months of dating, she told me she lost her virginity at 21. Well, most men would be OK with it. But you see, i'm different. Well, first of all, i really believe in saving it before marriage. And yes, i'm 32.. and yes.. that is rare... but it just IS. Not because the Bible says so or it is moral.. i just feel it.. inside... as a being.. it is a deep intimacy i want to give to my wife as a wedding present. It is an act I only want to share with the ONE, and I want to her to feel the same way about it. When she told me... honest.. i got sick.. my stomach hurt for 3 days.. i had honestly thought i found her... Now... i'm so confused... i have read the internet back and forth, but still, i cannot get over the fact that she has given herself to another before. Maybe if i were not a virgin male, i would not care.

It has been a month now.. and i still don't have an answer.. that is probably not a good sign. Is it possible to get over this sickening feeling? Or is this a pretty darn good sign for me to bail out and start over?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 06-11-2005 - 10:12pm

I do agree this is something they both have to talk about and work through if they want this relationship to work.


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