virgin question here...

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Registered: 12-11-2003
virgin question here...
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:42am
Hi everyone... Yeah, I'm still a virgin... Anyways, me and my MS are ready to have vaginal sex for the first time... The oral sex is great and I love it, but I'm a bit shy, scared and confused on what to do when i'm making love to him... Do I lay there ? Do I move around ? what do i do ??? MS has had 2 sexual partners and I think he knows what he's doing and I feel like a dummy because I dont know what to do... ANY ADVICE FOR ME PLEASE. I want the first time to feel SPECIAL and not worry about the OMG what do i do part and do i look gross and fat part.

thanks a lot
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 11:34am
There's no YOU SHOULD DO THIS answer..I think a lot of girls' first times are just..random like that..you do what you feel most comfortable with. You seem a bit edgy and I was very edgy when we were even just talking about it..so you can imagine how it was when we actually went for it. As for my first time...he was on top. Don't move around a lot..it'll come out and then it'll just get really frustrating.

Make sure he takes it slow in the beginning. I suggest if you guys are comfortable going down on each other..do it. It'll make it better. As for the info I recieved when I posted after my first time, FOREPLAY IS IMPORTANT. *courtesy of the cl and iv of this board!! ahaha*

Whatever you do, don't just let him in there and start pounding away..it'll hurt if thats what happens. Honestly, if he goes in and it hurts..both of you just take a couple seconds and stop. Look into each others eyes and really FEEL it. Just let it sit there for a couple seconds and also that'll build up the intensity and it'll be better and not hurt so much, that was my experience. Oh and make sure you stretch a lot before..if you're legs are used to the stretching, you won't feel so cramped after.

That's my advice.

Hope all goes well.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 12:41pm

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:55pm
Hi carla. Just a couple of cents along with the others here...

Just so ya know, the first time Lady Para & I did it, I made the mistake of trying to be this and that instead of just being myself and enjoying the experience of learning what she liked as well. As a result, she felt like I ignored her needs a bit when the fact of the matter was that I was actually trying too hard and overthinking myself. LOL!

His experience is NOT something for you to think about. He is now learning about YOU and what YOU like. You are those others he was with, so how he touches you and this and that will be a learning experience for himself as well.

Just relax and enjoy learning from each other. Also, if you're REALLY nervous about this beyond your control, I actually learned some very interesting techniques from a Kama Sutra video hosted by Dr. Patti. Its excellent for guiding couples through effective foreplay and yes indeed yes yes yes even the "what do I do now?" questions just like yours. Titled

Kama Sutra: Ancient Secrets of Love

Very worth looking up. Hope the responses have helped. :)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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