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| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 3:35pm |
Ok, so here's the deal: I'm a 24 year old virgin. It's not due to my religion, in fact, I want to have sex and I'm not saying I haven't had the opportunity. But there in lies the problem. Everytime I am about to have sex (i.e. penetration), it hurts...a lot. I know everyone says it's a little uncomfortable their first time, but I'm talking crying here. Is this normal? I'm embarassed to talk to my GYN about this; she's kind of suprised I'm still a virgin, but really...I need help. Any suggestions?

Talk to your gyno!!
I'm not saying this is your problem, but I have heard of a condition (can't remember the name of it now...) where your vaginal opening is actually too small and is easily fixed by a simple surgery...this could be all it takes! (i could be wrong about the details but i do know its fixed by a surgery-anybody who knows more please feel free to correct me!)
And there's no reason to be embarrassed in front of your gyn, she/he has heard/seen it all!
Do you get a lot of foreplay so you are
Just make sure you are relaxed…I know it’s a little hard not to, after hearing that. Don’t work yourself up to think of the pain.
Make sure you are fully aroused with foreplay, and if necessary use lubrication.
You will probably feel sore the fist few times, it’s not abnormal, but if pain persists, do see your doctor!
Welcome to the board daisy0kat.
As the other members have indicated, sex should not be painful. I know it can be embarrassing to talk with your doctor, but they really have heard it all. If you are properly aroused, you will lubricate enough under normal circumstances. If you are afraid of pain, you won't be able to get properly aroused. Proper arousal normally comes through foreplay, and if you are still afraid or nervous, you can add extra lube before penetration.
If that doesn't work, and it's still painful, you really need to talk to your gyn about what is happening. It could be a sign that there are other things going on.
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I assume your gyn has done a pelvic exam on you by now? There is also a condition where the hymen is extra thick and can make normal intercourse inpossible until it is snipped (should be able to have this done in the office at your gyn). TELL YOUR GYN about your problem! It is probably something quite simple and easily rectified.
Good luck to you!