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| Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:43pm |
i need some advice. first of all i was a virgin until 27 years old, can't explain why, just very unlucky and I used to be very overweight. I live with the man that i lost my virginity to and we're engaged to be married. i haven't told him that he's my first for fear of embarassment. He'd have to think i was some sort of freak, right? I want to tell him, we're getting married and i think that we should be open and honest with each other. He's a great man, i think he would be very understanding, but i can't get over my own shame. any suggestions or similar situations (probably not)
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Welcome to the board Barbra.
Virginity is NEVER something to feel "unlucky" about in my honest opinion. In fact, I'd be surprised if ANYone didn't feel special just to know that he or she was the only one special enough to sleep with I suppose...just my feelings on it.
Now I can only guess that marriage would involve trust and NOT hiding things from each other, right? If this is something you'd like him to know, then let him know. I'm guessing you wouldn't want to go through your marriage if you could trust him, so I'd be open with him right now without feeling shy about it because, after all, this is going to be your .
Since he IS a great guy, and since you trust him with everything anyway--enough to marry him, right?--then I don't see any risk in opening up to him with very special news like this. Congratulations! ;)
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