Virgins do it better?
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| Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:44am |
I have noticed something and was wondering if anyone else has had this experience. I have noticed that sex with virgin men has been unbelievably better than sex with men with previous experience. As a matter of fact my current BF was a virgin when we met and has been the best by far.
I find them more romantic, gentler, more willing to please, and more eager for foreplay. And I enjoy it because with him (having been a virgin) he is not tainted with the desires of other women (his words, not mine), and I can, in a way, mold him to my body alone ;-) which is nice, and he’s not complaining.
I talked to him about this, asking where/how he learned the things he does know, and he honestly doesn’t know. He thinks that in part it may have to do with male sensitivity (in more ways than one I suppose). I thought this was wonderful so I want to share what he told me in an IM conversation:
"To me, women are everything. They are not to be fooled with, messed with, or hurt. They are temples to be treated with the utmost respect. I am not sexually driven. Because of this, I never found myself in a sexual situation. Once put in that situation, I found all of the love, passion and respect that I felt towards you all bottled up and waiting for the right moment. I am still not driven by my own sexual needs, but rather yours. I love having sex with you, don’t get me wrong, but I am happiest when I am making you happy in any way, shape and form...
With that said- when are you coming over? ;-)"
-inaudiblyfree :-)

I disagree, any man can be a great lover whether he's been with many women or just one.
Welcome to the board inaudiblyfree. I hope you'll stop by the May Roll Call and let us know a little bit more about you.
I have never been with a virgin, but I know that sometimes they can have difficulty lasting long enough. The excitement of the new experience and all of the sensual things combined just seem to send them over the edge. Many guys have to work on holding back so that they can please their partner, and then there are also those guys that don't really care about pleasing their partner.
Along the lines of guys who are not virgins, I don't necessarily agree with the statements you made. While I've never been with a virgin, I have had several very giving partners. Actually, I guess all of my partners -- otherwise, I'd kick them to the curb :D To me, there's either a chemistry or there isn't. Sometimes the sex is good and satisfying, but when you're with the right partner, everything is intensified by the emotion that you feel. I don't think that has anything to do with being a virgin.
That being said, I think you're lucky to have found someone who puts your pleasure before his own. He sounds like a keeper ;-)
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Hey. Well, I have only been with one man - and he was not a virgin (but I was) and the sex is INCREDIBLE. He is SO eager to please me; I love it!
I don't think it has anything to do with whether the guy OR girl is a virgin or not. Sounds to me like you just found an incredible guy / lover who happened to be a virgin before you...Have fun!
"Any man or woman can be a great lover if they want to be and if they can communicate openly about their sex life, let their needs, wants and desires known to each other and be willing and wanting to pleasure each other. That's where you get great sex, both partners communicating and having the desire to make their sex life great"
Tish-
SO perfectly written!!
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i agree with tish.
any man can be great lover.
and i think it's normal for anyone to get turned on by what they see or fantasize. it's just a normal sex reaction.
but whether you entertain the desire and act on it that matters.
i don't mind it at all when my husband comments on a girl being hot or sexy or if he gets an erection while watching a movie. coz i get turned on too. but what we want is each other. fantasy is just a fantsay. and it can actually make your sex life richer. ;)