Voyerism

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Registered: 04-24-2007
Voyerism
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:41am
I have found my perfect guy ! We are very much in love and my boyfriend asked me if I would have sex with another guy, while he watches. I have mixed feelings on this. On one hand I'd do it, just cuz he would get turned on. On the other hand, what if I enjoyed it too much or the other guy did things to me that really turned me on, would he be jealous or feel inadequate ? I want this to enhance our relationship, not cause a problem - any suggestions?
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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: mstnt64
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:51am


Dont do it when I was in college my friend wanted the same thing but he wanted someone close to him to have sex with his SO it happened when I was drunk that I agreed to it lets just say he was on the smaller side compared to me and she told me no one has made her cum like that before not to brag lol that was the close to a good friendship to say the least they also broke up later down the road I know that as she called me to see if I was "avaliable"

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: mstnt64
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:30am

Perfect, he's not. He wants you to do something that you don't want to do. If you'd wanted to do it, you wouldn't have hesitated, and you wouldn't be here asking about it.

"We" are very much in love......you may be, but you can't speak for him, and I cannot see how any man in love would WANT to share his partner with someone else. It sounds like he's more interested in "exciting" and "forbidden" sex than in love.

If you do something you don't want to do, that means he's controlling you. It's not going to "keep" him with you. It may escalate into even crazier stuff. Maybe group sex, maybe S&M, etc. He wants to see you with another man. How are YOU going to feel if he wants you to see him with another woman, and/or wants you to participate.....are you bi-curious? You'd better be if he wants that.

Follow your instincts. You know it's not right, don't do it. You don't have to fulfill his fantasies.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: mstnt64
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 3:16pm
Welcome to the board mstnt64. I think for a relationship to be "open" both people need to feel comfortable and agree on the activity. The two people need to discuss their own boundaries and describe what is and what isn't acceptable. Your own relationship needs to be very secure and strong. If you feel that something is wrong in the equation, then it's best to avoid the situation.


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Registered: 04-21-2007
In reply to: mstnt64
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 11:55am
DO NOT DO IT. Just because he wants to watch you have sex with another guy. This guy is not good for you.