Vulvas/vaginas....what's most appealing?

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Vulvas/vaginas....what's most appealing?
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Sun, 07-10-2005 - 8:06pm
Okay, guys, let's hear YOUR comments.

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 5:42pm

Since the thread is going all over the place, I'll repost the question:

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Geez, I think I could find anything in any physical attributes exciting. In porn I guess my preference drifts toward little or no hair, smaller attributes. It's only a slight preference, though, because I find all variations attractive, even to bizarre excess.

I can understand why the thread went in the "opening-up" direction. That is a major major turn-on for me. Besides being naughty and extremely intimate, one fact that hasn't been mentioned yet is that we guys are physiologically wired to react to pink and red colors down there. No, really! I read it somewhere.

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 5:56pm

You've heard of gynecologists, haven't you? We allow many male ones to examine our bodies at least once a year! Not the same, for sure, but we're opening our legs voluntarily.

But my DH has witnessed me giving birth twice and we engage regularly in oral sex, so why would I be too shy to allow him to see my vulva at other times? Why is that so difficult for you to believe? My goodness, he's already seen everything at every angle many times over! LOL! Not only that, but what would I have to gain from lying about it on this board?

Just because it hasn't happened in your life though, is hardly reason to believe that it never happens. And maybe YOUR perception of what vulvas look like was part of the reason why women never allowed you to get a closer look! Possible?

My DH is, however, the ONLY man that I've trusted enough or loved enough to allow that kind of intimate access to my body....other than in a medical exam, which of course, isn't something I would choose to go through if it wasn't necessary.




Edited 7/12/2005 6:01 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 6:31pm

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 6:38pm
Yep, he ain't gettin' it otherwise! No peeking!
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 7:21pm

what's most appealing to me is that it's hairy(nicely trim),soft,warm,wet,good smelling
sweet tasting,inviting,and it is the most pleasuring thing to touch,explore,
and wonderful to be inside of.

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 8:39pm

I'm not questioning the truthfulness of yours or Tish's responses. It's just that I've read enough of both of your posts to know how you would respond to a question like that. It doesn't mean that I don't believe you, even though they do reflect attitudes that are totally alien to me. Also, just as it's true that just because I never encountered a woman who did that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen, it's also true that just because you have no problem with it doesn't mean that every woman feels that way. Although our personal experiences have a strong influence on our attitudes and perceptions of the world, they rarely lead us to Ultimate Truths, LOL.

I also have always had a very positive attitude about women's genitalia. After all, they are the 'Holiest of Holies' and the 'Promised Land' for any straight man with any kind of sex drive. For many years, just as I looked forward to having intercourse, I also eagerly looked forward to performing cunnilingus, reading everything I could find on the subject, so that I would be ready when the time finally came. I remember having this romantic notion that it would be very sexy to tell the lady in question that I preferred to make love to her with "the taste of her on my lips", LOL. So you can imagine my surprise and confusion when the time finally came and I was faced with the question "Why are you doing that?" Although that experience did deter me from trying that again for quite a while, it did not eliminate my desire.

I will admit that, despite my initial eagerness and enthusiasm, I was never completely comfortable 'down there'. I always had the feeling that I was somewhere that I wasn't supposed to be, that I was trespassing someplace that was Off Limits. Maybe if I had been received more enthusiastically, and with more encouragement, I might eventually been able to become confident enough to be comfortable there, maybe not. I don’t know if it was just me, but I just never felt welcome.

The truth of the matter is that I don't have any visual mental images of any of them. I can remember the differences in taste, scent, and feel, but I draw a complete blank when I try to remember what any of them looked like. I know that I didn’t have my eyes closed all the time, but the only memories I have are of watching their faces in an attempt to tell if what I was doing was having any effect. When I read the descriptions posted by the other men I feel like I'm reading descriptions of a country I've never visited, even though I thought that I had. It makes me wonder if, although I've had sex with a number of women, I never truly had a sexual relationship with any of them. Definitely something to ponder.

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 8:41pm
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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:46am

I think your feeling about women's genitals ("the Promised Land, the Holiest of holies")are not necessarily reflective of how all straight men feel though. Many straight men dislike women but they like sex, so they deal with them to get it. Or they're disgusted by their genitals but they love how they feel. So, it's not always true that men will love what they have sex with. There are plenty of misogynists in the world.

I'm quite sure if you had enjoyed an experience with a sexually receptive woman, you would remember it. But you can't paint the whole sex one way simply because of your negative experiences.

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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 1:34am

well rice - I must be very visual because I remember them all vividly. And I can tell you what I found most appealing visually about them all - and I dated alot of women before I settled down. I was not a slut by any means as I truly loved or liked each one of them a great deal for me to get THAT intimate.

Maybe it's where you live - you know Texas is in the heart of the Bible Belt. Now not all religious folks are prudes - but it depends on the Gospel you have preached to you. I was raised in a pretty liberal mainline church where sex was taught to be one of God's greatest gifts. Other folks I knew were taught it was for "having babies only" so vulvas would be off limits except when reproducing was the thing to be doing. You sound like you had the same type of upbringing I did - but the women you dated? Sure doesn't sound like that to me.

most appealing? the look of one opened up just for me to see inside

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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 1:48am
Fellow Texan here.

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