Want an orgasm so badly..need advice!

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Want an orgasm so badly..need advice!
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 8:49am

Ok, I am new to sex. Lost it like a month ago(my virginity that is..haha but i'm sure you figured that). But, I haven't had a vaginal orgasm(at least not a strong one) yet. I know it takes time..but I am impatient...haha.

I crave sex so much even without having an orgasm. My boyfriend is quite well endowed and I just love the way his penis feels inside of me. But I want it to be all the better. Do you have any tips for a 22 yr old girl to work with?! I'm rockin my boyfriend's world, but he is getting frustrated because he hasn't made me come yet. I also just started the nuvaring and am off my anxiety pills(which,on them, may have been a factor in my inability to reach intense orgasm). If you could give me any ideas, tricks of the trade, whatever, it would be GREATLY appreciated!

needa orgasm,

Suga

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 10:31am

feather,

WOW that must have been amazing to have your first orgasm unintentionally..and at 14! I will have to try this.

I really want to try and become more athletic and flexible so I can try new positions like this. I have gotten somewhat out of shape lately and it is just dragging me down. So, speaking of, i'm going for a run!

Thanks for the tip!!!

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Fri, 02-10-2006 - 10:33am

Tr,
haha that's pretty funny, but good! I know my boyfriend would be open to reading a book. He is scared to go down on me because he has no idea what to do. I should get him a book on the clit..hahahaha.

And no, no learning from porn here!

Thanks!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 10:48am
He doesn't need a book. Just take him to www.the-clitoris.com
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Fri, 02-10-2006 - 12:54pm

The only thing that I can add to all of the great advice you've been given, is what works for me.

First off, it took me years to have any orgasm at all with a partner(but I began having sex very young). There was just not enough foreplay and mentally, I was just not "there" ;-), at least not in the capacity that I needed in order for my mind to meet my body.

But anyhow, if I do have an orgasm from intercourse alone, it can only happen if it's the first orgasm. In other words, I can't orgasm from oral or manual or even intercourse with clitoral and then orgasm from just penetration alone. But I do have little or no problem orgasming from intercourse with clitoral at any time. So, as all of the others have told you, just relax, enjoy the ride, and go with the flow.

Try and clear your mind, allow your senses to get into all that you're expriencing(this will make you aroused), and if you're calm enough.....stop....and listen to your body. It will be your guide...it will not steer your wrong.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-16-2005
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 12:15am
RELAX!!! take a nice warm scented bath with candles, if you like wine have a glass of red wine, and RELAX!!!! take things slowly and concentrate on breathing and a lot of touching. If you and your b/f touch alot and use all of your sences, touch taste smell and feel then by the time you start to make love you'll be on the brink and you will have what has been eluding you.......:)
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Sat, 02-11-2006 - 9:27am

Thanks rain dancer. I'm just going to go with the flow and let it happen. You are right. It is hard for your mind to catch up with your body. I think i do need more foreplay, but half the time we just want to do the deed asap.haha.

But, the feelings are getting more intense between me and my bf, so that definitely helps. We are trying to maximize the penetration, and so far him on top and doggystyle are where its at..haha. I love being on top, but i just feel he doesn't get deep enough in me that way.

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Sat, 02-11-2006 - 9:30am
Yeah I think i need to relax more. And get more comfortable. We have been together a month and a half and I am really starting to let my guard down. I just have to feel more comfortable in my own body. This sounds cheesy as hell, but we said our first "i love yous" yesterday and that really made things more passionate.
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Registered: 11-16-2005
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:41am
that's really cool! it's going to get easier to realx the more open you both are with your feelings. just take it slow and before you know it you'll be rockin the major "o" !!:)

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