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Want to Try Anal Sex...
| Wed, 06-07-2006 - 4:32am |
I've attempted anal sex before...well attempted isn't a word...more like FORCED. (My ex anally raped me numerous times, no matter how many times I said no...wonder why he's an ex..) And I hated it because it hurt so bad and I tore a couple of times.... well now I've met a sweet guy who wants to try it and so do I (consented). So I guess my question is.. how can i make sure it's pleasurable for me and for him? What do I need to do to make sure I don't experience horrible pain and such? Also..my ex was a dismal 5 inches whereas the new guy is 9!!...how can I adjust to a larger girth in my bum?


In a word...SLOWLY! You not only have physical issues to overcome in attempting this act, but also emotional ones. Just TAKE YOUR TIME, otherwise, it will FEEL forced again, no matter how much he will try not to hurt you.
Start with digital anal stimulation combined with regular oral or manual stimulation during foreplay. And if you start with intercourse before moving to anal, don't go back to vaginal.
Have him wear a condom for his & your protection. Nasty infections may occur for both of you otherwise. Then after you're fully aroused or have already experienced one orgasm, have him lube up LIBERALLY and attempt slow, gentle anal penetration.
Remember, YOU should always be in charge of how far and how fast he goes in. He needs to understand that. When you say stop, he must stop.
Take him in an inch or so at a time. He should also know that you won't be able to take his full 9" and he shouldn't even attempt it until you've done it a few times and only if you feel able to try.
Bottom line, this is a tricky act without all the extra emotional baggage you have. I'm so sorry you had to endure this type of abuse from an ex.
Talk with your new guy, set the ground rules and then take the next steps slowly over time. Good luck!
Edited 6/7/2006 5:48 pm ET by katmandoo2001