wants sex?

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wants sex?
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:30am
if a guy focuses on crotch area while checking out ur body, is he fantasizing having sex with you? or just perverted?

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 11:49am
Didn't you ask the same question just a few months ago? I think I said that I would be offended if a strange man was blatantly staring at my crotch.
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Registered: 06-19-2001
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:08pm
When the "camel toe" shows, it's hard for any straight male to keep their eyes off it.
Osusguy
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:23pm
Either way, who cares? He's creepy!
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Registered: 08-04-2004
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 1:29pm

I think it depends on the guy and it depends on how he makes you feel.

It is disgusting if the guy who stares at you is vulgar and nasty, it might be a turn on if the guy is handsome and sexy. In general, I think most men are thinking of sex whether or not they are looking on your crotch are.

Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 6:17pm
Maybe. But there's a BIG difference in sneaking a peek and blatantly ogling some woman's crotch! That would creep me out personally and signal a perv alert.


Edited 8/5/2005 6:19 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 06-19-2001
In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:04pm
I think we need a definition of ogling. If there's no eye contact made, Perv alert it is!Where does the line get drawn? Is it 1, 2, 3...etc?
Osusguy
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cuteg345
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 1:01am
Well, I've been leered at before, and it sure doesn't feel like a compliment to me. It makes me feel like a piece of meat. If a man looks me in the eyes and smiles, that's flirting. Leering at a body part is disrespectful.
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Registered: 06-19-2001
In reply to: cuteg345
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 8:50am

Where did it say anywhere that leering or focusing was a compliment?

The original post mentioned focus. Per dictionary.com, it means "Close or narrow attention; concentration". In which case, Perv applies.

Leer, on the other hand,

"leer ( P ) Pronunciation Key (lîr)
intr.v. leered, leer·ing, leers
To look with a sidelong glance, indicative especially of sexual desire or sly and malicious intent.

n.
A desirous, sly, or knowing look."

I would hope that depending on whom is doing the leering (like SO), your feeling would change.

Osusguy
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cuteg345
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 8:48pm

No one in this thread did say that ogling was a compliment but the reactions of strange men in MY past who were surprised at MY negative reaction to it, was my reference.

And I think I made my comments pretty clear. Being ogled by someone I know, love and trust, like my DH, is a very different experience than being ogled by a complete stranger, which obviously, is who I was referring to.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: cuteg345
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 9:49pm

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