Well, I've never been fooled....yet. I can spot a player a mile away. Guess that comes from growing up around two brothers and their friends, and then marrying and having two sons of my own. You learn a great deal from living with and observing the opposite sex.
He MAY be playing mind games, or he may just be horny, or both. Or as Luv mentioned, he may like you but not be very adept at conveying that in a tactful way. The only way to know is to ask him what's up.
Anything's possible but I would urge caution unless you are just looking for a sex partner, in which case, nothing would be lost or risked.
And personally, I always avoided any guy who was "too" anything...too polished, too confident, too smooth, too practiced in his approach, too sincere, too eager to please or too arrogant. Those guys believe they can get any woman, any time, and it's all a game of numbers for them. And it shows.
I like confidence in a man but always balanced with a little humility and shyness.
Stop posting here and go talk. 6 months of staring at one another is ridiculous. Either you have something or you don't. You'll never know what he's thinking unless you confront him. Bring a friend or do it in a public place if you 'feel' there will be any trouble. Stop the schoolyard games and get it over with. Please!
I agree, go up and ask him what size jeans his wife wears....LOL Or reverse it on him. Stair at his crotch until he's so uncomfortable that he askes what you're doing, or runs away.
But really, I'd say hi to him, and if you catch him looking again, ask him..."do I have something on my jeans?" Thereby innocently drawing attention to his stare.
I'm a male who was ogled. When I was in my twenties, I worked as a salad chef in a restaurant, and was required to wear the kitchen whites. I went commando a lot in those days. Just before opening, a group of waitresses would sit in a booth and have their last coffee, etc. My wanderings would take me past this booth on occasion. I noticed waitresses looking at me, but thought nothing of it.
It was only later that a waitress friend told me they would steal looks at my crotch. Without briefs, apparently my penis and testicles would be outlined through my pants. One waitress reportedly referred to it as my "crucifix". This went on for a week or two before my friend told me about it. I had mixed feelings of embarrassment and arousal, and it still brings a smile to my face almost thirty years later. I wonder what their reactions would have been if I had been sporting an erection!
Along with talking with him about your relationship, I personally feel that time is a good sign in itself as well. No matter how well you think you know and trust someone, there are couples out there that have bragged for decades about being so this and that and yet they too end up breaking up anyway, whether it be good or even ridiculous reasons.
Someone else's experience help you, but its YOUR journey to take. How far you take it is up to you and how much more you trust this guy as time passes. Nothing wrong with learning from others' experiences...as long as one isn't hinging on them. GO TALK WITH THE MAN! :)
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Edited 8/12/2005 1:11 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
He MAY be playing mind games, or he may just be horny, or both. Or as Luv mentioned, he may like you but not be very adept at conveying that in a tactful way. The only way to know is to ask him what's up.
Anything's possible but I would urge caution unless you are just looking for a sex partner, in which case, nothing would be lost or risked.
And personally, I always avoided any guy who was "too" anything...too polished, too confident, too smooth, too practiced in his approach, too sincere, too eager to please or too arrogant. Those guys believe they can get any woman, any time, and it's all a game of numbers for them. And it shows.
I like confidence in a man but always balanced with a little humility and shyness.
How about a shy perv whose wife needs a pair of jeans?
Agree!
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I agree, go up and ask him what size jeans his wife wears....LOL
Or reverse it on him. Stair at his crotch until he's so uncomfortable that he askes what you're doing, or runs away.
But really, I'd say hi to him, and if you catch him looking again, ask him..."do I have something on my jeans?" Thereby innocently drawing attention to his stare.
I'm a male who was ogled. When I was in my twenties, I worked as a salad chef in a restaurant, and was required to wear the kitchen whites. I went commando a lot in those days. Just before opening, a group of waitresses would sit in a booth and have their last coffee, etc. My wanderings would take me past this booth on occasion. I noticed waitresses looking at me, but thought nothing of it.
It was only later that a waitress friend told me they would steal looks at my crotch. Without briefs, apparently my penis and testicles would be outlined through my pants. One waitress reportedly referred to it as my "crucifix". This went on for a week or two before my friend told me about it. I had mixed feelings of embarrassment and arousal, and it still brings a smile to my face almost thirty years later. I wonder what their reactions would have been if I had been sporting an erection!
>>I agree...men aren't very inventive when it comes to tactfulness. They were never taught, or cared to learn.<<
Was this meant as a joke or are you actually being serious?
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Along with talking with him about your relationship, I personally feel that time is a good sign in itself as well. No matter how well you think you know and trust someone, there are couples out there that have bragged for decades about being so this and that and yet they too end up breaking up anyway, whether it be good or even ridiculous reasons.
Someone else's experience help you, but its YOUR journey to take. How far you take it is up to you and how much more you trust this guy as time passes. Nothing wrong with learning from others' experiences...as long as one isn't hinging on them. GO TALK WITH THE MAN! :)
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