Was he being selfish?
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| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:42am |
Last night, my boyfriend kept talking about how horny he was and that he wanted me to go down on him. I said fine, I wasn’t really in the mood at that point, but I didn’t have a problem doing it for him. About 5 minutes into it, I was definitely in the mood. I knew my spotting wasn’t that bad that day, so I asked him if he wanted to have sex. His response? “Not now.”
I didn’t really know how to take that. He orgasmed about 5-10 minutes after that, so did he say it because he was so close? Or did he say it because the BJ felt good and he didn’t want to switch gears? I felt slighted, like his needs were more important than mine.
I asked him about it this morning, and he said he didn’t know that my spotting was light. He thought I was joking when I asked him. Huh?? Why would I ask then?? I’m guessing that was his lame excuse for saying, “yeah, it WAS all about me last night.”
Thoughts?

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Talk with him about this, tell him that it FEELS as if you are being neglected or taken advantage of and try to work it out. If he's turned off by a little spotting, though, then he really shouldn't be with a woman at all. That WILL happen from time to time with all women.
Edited 5/14/2004 6:57 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Robin
Chalk up communication as another issue for us. It's almost as if he's conditioning me to not bring things up that bother me since he immediately gets angry and annoyed. I guess that's a whole 'nother issue.
His reaction makes me suspect he feels that you're making a mountain out of a molehill.
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