Was he being selfish?
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| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:42am |
Last night, my boyfriend kept talking about how horny he was and that he wanted me to go down on him. I said fine, I wasn’t really in the mood at that point, but I didn’t have a problem doing it for him. About 5 minutes into it, I was definitely in the mood. I knew my spotting wasn’t that bad that day, so I asked him if he wanted to have sex. His response? “Not now.”
I didn’t really know how to take that. He orgasmed about 5-10 minutes after that, so did he say it because he was so close? Or did he say it because the BJ felt good and he didn’t want to switch gears? I felt slighted, like his needs were more important than mine.
I asked him about it this morning, and he said he didn’t know that my spotting was light. He thought I was joking when I asked him. Huh?? Why would I ask then?? I’m guessing that was his lame excuse for saying, “yeah, it WAS all about me last night.”
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just my $.02.
honey
http://www.4woman.gov/faq/douching.htm
I think what Honey is trying to get across Jeep is that the vagina is in a constant downward motion, so it's constantly cleaning itself. In a "healthy vagina" if one does douche, it would only serve to be quite a temporary condition. In other words, if she normally had a strong odor, douching would most likely only work for a few hours.
I also believe that Honey might have felt that since YOU suggested that your SO douche, that you only added to her self-consciousness. If, as you said, you love her smell, taste or whatever, the proper response would have been, to encourage her(since you are the most intimate with her vaginaand say "There's nothing wrong with your smell or taste." instead of "Why not douche." Think of it as though a man were slightly self-conscious about the size of penis and mentions it to his partner, and she replies "You can try a pump--it may work." ;-) Obviously, ignorance makes it forgiveable--however, it may seem that your partner is adding to your insecurities....or being counterproductive.
Although, it may seem harmless, it throws off the natural ph balance of the vagina(vinegar is used to increase the acidity), and it therefore leaves the vagina in a state of unprotection--or immediately more susceptible to bacterial growth. It would make sense that oral, manual, or intercourse following douching would raise the risks.
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