wat do u think

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Registered: 02-19-2004
wat do u think
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:46am
can u guys help me out. i dont like oral sex , does that make me not mature enough to be having sex? i think oral and hand jobs r disgusting and i would never do it or let someone give me oral thats for sure.

xxx

kate

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:25pm
There are plenty of people who have no desire to do such things, and it has no bearing on your readiness for sex. May I ask why you don't like to do it? Perhaps someone here might be able to help in that area. The hand job thing I really don't understand though.

Leticia

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:14pm
I'd have to ask..How old are you? Roughly

Do you like to masturbate? Do you have a bf and are you in love?

I'm not trying to anger or frustrate you, just to understand more.

It just seems that you may be affraid of somethings for some reasons.

Let us know what you can...or ignore this if you want.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:28pm
Since you brought "maturity" into your question, I'm going to say that no, you're not mature enough. Maturity has nothing to do with age, by the way. There are people who refuse to give or receive oral sex, and that's their right. However, it'll be tough finding a partner who will accept that on a long term basis.

The fact that you find oral sex disgusting, and you think "hand jobs" are disgusting doesn't leave much else to do sexually.

Some day, if you find someone you really care about, you might change your mind.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 2:25pm

Well, I think it will be hard for you to find someone for a long term relationship.


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:09am
leticia

it doesnt interest me at all to be honest, i have done it before to a past boyfriend but thats about it, i dont really enjoy itand will prob never do it to my present man, he isnt bothered either.and the oral sex well thats just not right i dont think (no offence to those who do it)!yuk , is all i have to say about that!lol

xxxxxxxkate
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:12am
hi im 19 and yes i am very in love , have been for nearly 3 yrs now. yes i do like to masturbate. the other things dont really interest me to be honest thats y i dont do them

hope i helped

xxxx kate

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:15am
hi yeah i really care about my man

he isnt bothered about me not givin or recievin oral he doesnt say nothing so it doesnt matter, thats the way i see it,is there anything else i should say here?

xxxkate
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:21am
hi

yeah me and my man have been in love for nearly 3 yrs, we have talked about it at the begining of relationship because one night he went to go down on me and i was like " yeah right u not going down there" he didnt mind, i would never let him and i would never do it back. he hasnt mentioned it since so he not bothered , if he ends relationship just cuz there no oral or cuz i wont do other things then it wouldnt bother me cuz i can give myself the pleasure . he is a nice guy and has never had these sexual favours from past relationships.we dont really think about that anymore, we r more interested in havin fun.

xxxkate
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:51am
Thanks for answering. I was just wondering those things.

You asked what we(individuals) think and it looks like you got a wide array of answers.

My ex wife was similar in that she wouldn't go down on me, I could do it to her, but she did not let herself relax enough to enjoy it or any other aspect of love making.

It was Ok at first, I figured we'd "grow into it".

However, after 10 yrs. of not growing at all, and my interest in it and frustration from lack of her interest building...we divorced. Not her or my fault. Just a difference.

There were other reasons...but honestly sex was the main one.

Good luck to you, and I hope you've found your soul mate.


Edited 8/20/2004 6:53 am ET ET by luvlickin
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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 8:12am
oh my thats got me thinking, i hope me and my partner dont fade apart like u guys did, i just hope my man isnt expecting us to grow into it, im not sure wat hes really thinking about it , if i asked him if hes still waitin for the time i know he will say "no dont worry about it". did ur ex wife ask u this? wat did u say to her?sex isnt the most important part of our relationship,

thanks

xxxxx kate

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