wat do u think

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wat do u think
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:46am
can u guys help me out. i dont like oral sex , does that make me not mature enough to be having sex? i think oral and hand jobs r disgusting and i would never do it or let someone give me oral thats for sure.

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kate

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 7:55am

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 7:59am

I suppose you can do that Yasmin, but you have to be careful when sucking that you don't suck the cling wrap down your throat and choke to death.


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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 10:56am
lol.
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:03pm
>>i just wanted to know wat people would say<<

Many of us couples each other's bodies and body parts, even to the point of oral sex. With proper hygience, its safe and not unhealthy at all and provides extremely top-notch pleasure to each. For some it serves as an even MORE intimate form of love-making than without it.

Other couples or individuals don't always share that same view.

I think thats really all that CAN be said about it.

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:39pm
It almost sounds like a phobia, as opposed to just an aversion. I have exactly one phobia that has lasted my whole life: I can't/won't touch a live fish! It -completely- freaks me out. If you take me fishing, I suppose that's fine so long as you take the fish off the hook. Anyhow, I bring this up b/c it sounds like the OP has that kind of reaction to penises and their emissions. If that's so, I don't think it's healthy. If it's just an aversion, well that doesn't seem like a big deal ... tastes vary. But a phobia is something hard-wired into the brain, and I think they can be largely cured. In my case, it's a silly phobia (but very real, I assure you!), but in the OP's case it may affect her happiness, so I'd try to get some help if I were her.


Edited 8/24/2004 5:58 pm ET ET by i_christy_la1
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:44pm
Kate-

what it seems to be coming down to is that you're just not ready to have sex yet. You're allowed to like or dislike whatever you want when it comes to foreplay (altho be prepared, the more experience you get you mind just might change about oral and stuff! i used to be VERY "anti" certain things when i was young...my opinion has changed over time!!).

it seems to me the fact that you're questioning whether you're ready or not indicates you are in fact MATURE (rather than just doing it cuz you think you're supposed to)...it's simply that you're not ready. which is totally fine!

the only bit of advice i offer is to try and be open minded. and be understanding that a sexual relationship is about give and take between PARTNERS and you will both have to work at finding way to pleasing each other...his needs and wants are as important as yours. Sounds like he's a great guy, and you are young and have plenty of years to grow and learn about each other- you just gotta be willing to roll with it...having super strict rigid rules on a lot of things without even considering change over time may spell trouble down the road.

but for now, just go with your gut. you know what's best for you...

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:52pm
>>Just wanted to add that you could always place a loose layer of cling-wrap between your mouths to keep those nasty germs at bay ;-) <<

Or, for those days you're feeling a little kinky, aluminium foil adds an interesting sensation and looks way cooler...

ROTFL! :-)

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 5:39pm
yeah good point thats wat i want to hear thanks dude !

xxx kate

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 11:12pm
Never thought about this before - oral sex gives vast new meaning to the term "potty mouth"!!!



I swear I'll really be careful with whom I share a drink with these days - you never know where their mouth was last night :-P


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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 7:11pm
LOL - it doesn't even matter where their mouth was last night - just the fact that it *is* a human mouth makes it pretty bacteria-laden. You're going to be exposed to a hundred more things mouth-to-mouth than you *ever* will mouth-to-penis. Besides, if someone bathes regularly, the penis is just...dry skin, like anywhere else on your body. Not even mucous membranes to breed anything.

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