Watching naked woman

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Registered: 12-21-2004
Watching naked woman
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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 5:42am

Girls

Will you let your boyfriend or husband watch naked woman? Do you think it is alright if they look at other woman naked or asking their partner to be naked? Can you just assume it as man's nature?

Please share you opinion's with me.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 8:40am

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 9:38am

If you're talking about pornography or strip clubs, I see nothing wrong with it occasionally. If a man becomes addicted to it, and ignores his wife because of it, then it's a problem.

As for seeing his wife naked.....don't married couples usually see each other naked? If a wife won't let her husband see her naked, then she has a problem.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 11:46am

I will assume that you are referring to porn and strip clubs as well. My DH is an adult and HE made the decision not to use porn long before I came into the picture. So, it was never a question of me "letting him" do anything. The decision was his to make, not mine.

But we have never used porn in our long marriage, and at this point, never plan on using it. Just don't see the need.

Strip clubs are different, IMO, because you're dealing with live human beings in potentially risky circumstances where alcohol is often involved. My DH and I are in agreement that this type of activity is out of bounds for a committed couple, so obviously, neither of us indulge in looking at live, naked strangers.

But I think it's HUMAN nature to be interested in sex and the human body, particularly of the opposite sex. It's not exclusively A MALE trait to be interested but not all men (or women) will use porn or frequent strip clubs simply because they are interested.




Edited 12/1/2005 11:56 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 11:36am

IF my husband wanted to look at another naked woman that isn't me, you'd better believe he'd be blind and castrated. The same would apply for me. If I'm not enough for my husband to look at, then that to me signifies a problem within our relationship. JMHO

If this naked woman watching is pornography, then I'd gladly sit and watch a video with my husband. I'm all for new bedroom ideas.

If this naked woman watching is allowing another woman in my house to strut in front of my husband, then absolutely freaking not. I take my vows super seriously. I meant it when I said that I forsake all others. Different strokes for different folks, but again JMHO.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 11:43am

I just read my own post and wanted to clarify:

1) I don't tell my husband what to do and what not to do. I can tell him things that I don't like and would personally offend me. I leave the decision up to him as to whether or not he'll do it. He's a grown man and I'm not his mother. Last time I checked, he was free to decide.

2) I would never actually physically hurt my husband. I love him too much. Besides, my baby needs a daddy. :)

3) Strip clubs are a no-no in our house. Our philosophy has been that "why pay for something that you can see at home for free?" We both just have no desire for that kind of thing. Its not my rule, its not his rule. We both just don't care to do it.

I think that about covers it.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 2:42am

I know that this reply is a couple of days late but I'll add it anyway.

It really depends on your situation. You haven't made the specific situation clear so there are a variety of answers that can apply.

My fiancee lets me look at pictures of naked women in magazines, on the internet and in porn movies. She often looks too as she can appreciate an attractive naked female. She is OK with that situation. For us, that is OK, for other couples? Their feelings about it may vary.

I know that my fiancee would be uncomfortable if I went to strip clubs (or any place where there are real live naked women) regularly. She does not mind if it is rarely. Say for example, on a night out with the boys.

As for looking at your partner naked? Surely a married couple or a couple in a relationship should naturally want to look at one another naked? Isn't that part of what marriage is about? I would actually consider it odd if they did NOT look at one another in that situation.

Is it man's nature? Yes. I think that it is. Humans are sexual animals and nakedness is something that we are naturally attracted to. So Yes, I think that men naturally have a desire to look at naked women.

Perhaps if you have a specific situation we could give you a more specific answer?