Watching with toys ? ....

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Watching with toys ? ....
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:08pm

Just a little info before I ask a question. I have a fairly new relationship with a man that I am starting to believe I can fall in love with. We waited a little while before taking our relationship to the boudair but it is there now and its everything I could have hoped for!

My question is simple. I would appreciate male opinions and well as female!

In a new relationship like this, how comfortable would the women be using one of their toys on theirselves in front of the new guy (he wants to watch of course) and also from the guys .. how would you feel about a woman (that you are beginning to care about) letting you watch when she masturbates with toys? Its just that we have only spent 3 weekends together (actually together) and I am still a bit on the slightly inhibited side (only because its so new) although I know I will let him watch as he wants to eventually. I just don't want to mess up this relationship because I do really care about him.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:24pm
I love that, one of my biggest turn ons is to watch a lady make herself O, truly erotic!
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:46pm

I kind of thought that most guys would love it. And he seems to be one of those guys lol. My one request of him is going to be that he can watch ... but he can't touch me until I do O which tends to take longer with my rabbit than it does with actual i/c with him in the hopes that when I do let him finally touch me he will be mad with desire *grin*. So I have been thinking about it a lot. I know he said he asked his ex to do this and she wouldn't do it (as well as a lot of other things that I WILL do and so far have done for him). I may just give him his own show this weekend when he gets home lol. Its just that our relationship is so new!

Thanks for the encouragement bronco!!

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:55pm
MMMM, Sure I enjoyed the mental picture! Lucky guy!
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Registered: 12-01-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:07pm
Personaly, I would hold off until you are completely comfortable. Right now just enjoy your new relationship and let it go where it may. There will be plenty of time for what he wants. I wouldn't even bring it up to him until you are ready.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:13pm

good point ... although I am not the one that brings it up lol. But I wouldn't have asked this question if I was completely comfortable yet. I am on my way there, for sure, but not positive I am there yet.

Thanks for the input!

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Registered: 05-10-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:14pm
I agree with bronco2006, it is one my favorite things is watch my dw use one her toys until she O's. But it is important that you ready for this to happen. Don't do this until you are ready. But he will enjoy it.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:17pm

LOL .. you're welcome. I do aim to please. Not sure when I am going to fulfill this request of the new SO but I will eventually :)

I have to admit though that the more I think about it the more I like the idea :)

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:22pm
LOL, yes and I love the idea alot more each time I read about it, LUCKY SOB! LOL
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Registered: 06-04-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 3:23pm

i dont know that the newness of the relationship is going to be as much a factor for HIM as it might be for you - I know this topic is somewhat along the lines of what I WANT and asked about in my 'Multi-Tasking' topic I started here yesterday.

I personally would go primal - the whole idea of "Look - Don't Touch" play makes me short of breath in and of itself. That is one of my biggest turn ons ever. Lucky guy!!!

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 4:13pm
Thanks for the input guys. I am pretty much along the primal lines myself (good girl out of bed, but watch out when I get you in it!) and just thinking about doing this for him is making me think that I am to the point in our relationship where I would feel comfortable with it. I have already introduced him to my favorite toy and he knows that I use it so ... what am I waiting for? Just don't want to scare him off LOL. Have to prepare him for when I bring out the whips *grin* .. j/k! Well .. a little hehe.

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