Watching with toys ? ....
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| Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:08pm |
Just a little info before I ask a question. I have a fairly new relationship with a man that I am starting to believe I can fall in love with. We waited a little while before taking our relationship to the boudair but it is there now and its everything I could have hoped for!
My question is simple. I would appreciate male opinions and well as female!
In a new relationship like this, how comfortable would the women be using one of their toys on theirselves in front of the new guy (he wants to watch of course) and also from the guys .. how would you feel about a woman (that you are beginning to care about) letting you watch when she masturbates with toys? Its just that we have only spent 3 weekends together (actually together) and I am still a bit on the slightly inhibited side (only because its so new) although I know I will let him watch as he wants to eventually. I just don't want to mess up this relationship because I do really care about him.

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Wow . . . good luck and DEFINITELY keep us posted!
You know . . . I've always wondered about if a woman felt more self-conscious masturbating in front of her lover using her fingers or her toys; and it's always been my speculation that fingers were a bit more 'personal' than toys. Maybe I'm wrong, huh?
And I do like your thoughts on wanting him to wait so you can enjoy him!
Dang . . . he's ONE LUCKY GUY if you want my opinion!
Thought I should post a weekend update. The offer is now on the table but just the offer that I would do that if he wants me to, with the stipulation that he can only watch and not touch me (he can touch himself all he wants as long as he's still hard when I am ready for him hehe, had to make that clear to him), just the offer that I would do that for him turned him on so much that he took me on the bedroom floor *grin*. At the foot of the bed. Now my floor's wet cause I had to shampoo the carpet ROFL! He said he isn't sure he can not touch me if he watches me with my favorite toy. I told him when he wants to watch, bring me the rabbit vibe and he still has to just watch. That was when he threw me down on the floor and had his way with me. Dang he's too good. I feel so darn lucky to have found someone like this!
I think he feels pretty lucky too :)
Edited 6/18/2007 12:36 pm ET by tami-kins
Maybe I feel this way because it took me a long time to be able to do it and feel it is so special. Now you and this new guy maybe headed down a wonderful longterm path together but if it was me, I probably would wait. There are enough sexual things for you to share over and over again.
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If I were much younger I might agree with you about waiting. But both my SO and I are 49 and we both want a committed relationship and it was a little bit of love at first sight for both of us when we met. The more I get to know him the more I grow to care about him and the more I want to live with him. And after so many failed relationships in my life, believe me when I say I am weighing all factors in my new relationship!
Naw .. I'm ready whenever he is ... it may not happen for a while yet though cause every time he starts talking about it he gets so turned on he can't wait to have me. And I sure don't mind LOL. He keeps saying he wishes we had both met at 16, we are so much alike its eerie, but I just tell him it can still be a wild ride for however long we have together now :) especially since the great sex is only a part of the relationship we are building!
Edited 6/18/2007 1:19 pm ET by tami-kins
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Thanks :). I thought your advice was good though. Exactly what I would give someone that was younger!
Its great to hear that you and your DH have that kind of relationship. I made a lot of changes in my life in order to be able to find just what you have. I am seriously starting to think that maybe I finally found a guy that is right for me. I know you have to make concessions to live with anyone for a long time but every man I found before this one required too many concessions for me to be happy! At long last, I think I can be happy with this one! Smart, sexy and definitely all man! And we see the world in pretty much the same way. Pretty great mix so far :)
"my speculation that fingers were a bit more 'personal' than toys. Maybe I'm wrong, huh?"
I don't know about the other ladies but to me fingers are just another sex organ LOL. My fingers are everywhere (all over me and HIM) everytime I have sex. I think using a toy on yourself is definitely a more personal AND vulnerable experience.
Edited 6/18/2007 2:04 pm ET by tami-kins
Wow . . . I guess it just goes to show that even an old dog can still learn something new every day.
I can see (now that you mention it) how toys probably are AT LEAST as personal, if not MORE SO than just fingers.
And I couldn't agree more with your comment that fingers are just more sex organs!
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