We are on a break !

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Registered: 04-25-2005
We are on a break !
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:17am
My boyfriend broke up with me wednesday night. Im not going to get into any details about what happened but all i can say is .. we both still like eachother alot he just doesnt know what he wants right now. I know people are just saying " there are many other fish in the sea " and " oh youre such a pretty girl you can get any guy you want " blah blah blah. But you see .. I love him so much and I just cant forget about him. We are friends for now and may get back together but just not right now. Is there any advice you could give me that sure enough will make him want me back sooner. should i play hard to get ? what should i do cause Im so heart broken but yet I DONT want to give up !

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 12:01pm

I'm sorry you're going through this and I understand how heartbreaking it is, but there is nothing


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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 1:00pm
We have never ever had a problem in our relationship. We have never gotten in a fight. Little arguments that we get over within 5 minutes but thats about it. The thing is we arent broken up forever just a break so he can sort out his priorities and settle down to let me know when he is ready to get serious. In our hearts we both still want eachother he just needs time to commit. We are friends for now and we are carrying on as if everything is the same just not a couple. So is there anything i could do in the meantime to keep my mind off the fact that i have to wait until he's ready. I know he will come around .. intime. Also Im the kinda of person who keeps to myself, I dont have many friends that I go out with on weekend .. I rarely call them either. Is there any alternatives to keep me busy to get my mind off the subject until he is ready to commit. thanks for your help
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 3:46pm

What hobbies or activities do you enjoy?


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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 4:14am

You seem terribly sure that it's only a matter of time until he comes back to you when he realises that he wants to commit. Well,.... that's nice that you feel that way and I sure do hope that it works out. But you should really consider the possibilty that it might not work out and that he will leave. Sometimes these things just don't work out the way that you plan them. After-all, I guess that you weren't expecting to be broken up and on this 'break' a week ago, did you?

What are his priorities? How do they NOT fit in with yours?

Keep talking to him. There is no point in playing games and playing hard to get.

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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 9:14am
She's 18 - not sure how old he is.
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 9:26am
He's 18 too. And I know we are still young and still have a long road ahead of us. and hey maybe we arent right for eachother or maybe we are.we get along great .. we have the same likes and dislikes and we all hang out with the same friends. And Im going with him and his family to a wedding in July. I just dont see what went wrong here .. but yet all 18 year old boys dont know what they want. Tell me this .. You know how i shouldnt call him .. he should call me. Should I call him at all. I dont want him to think im blowing him off to the point where hes like the hell with it, she doesnt want me anymore. Or should i call him once in a while just to say hi. Also what if he asks me to spend time with him .. should I say yes or tell him im busy .. ( follow my heart ? )
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:03am
You do what you feel is right for you to do.

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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 11:07am
Lets just say we were to have sex. I just dont want him to feel like im someone there for him when he is horny. Sex for me is something i like to share with someone I love .. to express our feelings and since i still love him im not sure if i want to get into that. I also dont want him to think that im just some available piece of ass ( excuse my language ) but Im the only girl he would hook up because he told me he doenst want to like anyone else or get with any other girl. I know none of you know him but this kid is the most honest trustworthy polite guy ive ever known and its not an act he plays. No one hates him and he doesnt hate anyone and from my experiences he would never lie to me about other girls. so he told me he wouldnt get with any other girls. Which kind of confuses me .. because when guys want a break isnt that what they want .. to explore with other females. I have no idea. I just dont want him to get the idea that Im there when he wants sex hence friends with benefits even though before we went out in the beginning we did but thats different because we were together for almost a year and now that we arent together doesnt make it right for him to come to me still wanting some .. if he wants it that badly from me .. inside he knows that i still want him back and im not looking for any other guy BUT also I dont want him getting back with me just for sex. I know he wouldnt do that though .. he doesnt have that kind of heart. He'd be getting back with me because I mean alot to him and in his heart i still do. He just needs to figure out what he really wants. ( hope none of this confused you )
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 11:47am

This is only what I would do if I were in your situation.


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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 12:28pm
honestly i dont get why he wants a break either if he doesnt want to be with another girl. he invited me over tonight and yes im going. no sex. just hanging out. is there anything i should say to him. should i ask if this break up is honestly just a break til he figures out what he wants or if its just a polite way of him saying he doesnt want to ever be with me again. Also if it just is a break .. but lasts for awhile, Im not going to wait forever .. after awhile Im going to want to do my own thing and Im not going to wait any longer. Hopefully he figures out what he wants to do or hes going to loose me. - Lyndyn

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